I tend to use ironic obscure conversation with a massive amount of sarcasm to start a conversation. Nothing arrogant or mean spirited, just playful witty banter with subtle hints that I'm attracted to her. I have pretty good success considering I don't fit the usual definition of attractive, but I'm just wondering if I'm sometimes hurting my chances by saying too much too fast.
Obviously you don't want to turn everything she says into a joke, but humor is a big part of the initial connection. Can sarcasm only go so far before it's starts to look desperate? Should I replace some of the jokes with casual questions or compliments?
Here's an example. I said the following to a girl who I had noticed was looking at me for awhile when I was at a bookstore. Too much?
*Introduce myself*
Me: "So redheads are only 2% of the world population. The fact that me and you are both in this store and part of that group is actually pretty rare. Plus neither of us are sunburned even though it's July, that right there is something that only comes along every couple years."
Her: *Stunned look followed by a quiet laugh*
She did laugh and I got a quick lunch date with her, but I got the feeling that she was a bit off put by the comment. I use humor when I'm nervous, so I'm just worried that it's coming off a bit weird sometimes if I'm really nervous and rambling. It obviously depends on the girl, but there has to be a common tolerance limit. Maybe she was just shy??
Any insight would be helpful, thanks.
Oh and I don't ever go to bars. Just libraries, book stores, charities, parks, etc. Not sure if that's important, but it might help knowing the type of girls I might talk to.