GF wants a break but i dont?

[anon1234567]

My girlfriend and I have been together for a year and periodically we would have some arguement and get over it. Last night I was talking to her and she asked me if we needed a break. My jaw nearly dropped 'cause I was thinking nowhere near that. Being upset, she said it would be good for the relationship so we could "see if we really want this or appreciate what we have. I'm not leaving you completelty just gaining more space, maybe we could see how much we mean to each other and argue less if we take a break" Me still upset, I didn't want to talk about it yesterday (it was like 2am and i was tired too >.>) So i just told her we'll talk about this tommorow. I love her and I don't want her to walk away from me so I dunno what to do. Also, i'm seeing her today for our anniversary (2 days ago) being that we were both really busy that day.
Is she right? Is there anything I can do to change her mind? What should I do? Help me out D;

[VincenzoG91]

It takes ongoing communication to address problems in a relationship. A break is the opposite of that, running away and hoping the problem solves itself or something happens to change the situation.

More likely, this is about her seeing somebody else without cheating on you. She wants some time to date this other guy, to see if she can be happier with him.

[Superfantastich]

a break definately sounds like she is trying to break up with you softly or have a look around see who she can get. If she has no luck, guess who will be wanting a reunion?

[Boisdevie]

I want us to take a break = this relationship is dying.

[IncognitoSir]

Like Vince said, if you're having relationship issues, what could a "break" do for you? You take a break from each because all you do is argue over silly things right? Then, what, a month later, problems are fixed???? Nope. I'd ask her if she actually wants to try to fix the relationship or a breakup, because her "break" is just her breaking up with you in directly.

[zertaag]

Unless there is some unknown exception that I have NEVER heard of...a break usually is a nice way to let someone down.

I don't mean to be negative, but she's probably just unhappy with the relationship but still loves you and wants you in her life. Talk to her more, communicate. Use your best judgement by her answers and body language and you should be able to detect what's going on.

[deeblondie82]

I agree with everyone here. I mean if someone says that it means that a break. You need to talk to her and ask if you two can talk and be honest and truly find out whats the issue she's having with it all. I mean why go back to someone who wants a break if she truly loves you she will tell you whats bothering her and you both can resolve it together... I'm sorry but if she wants to break for a while whats the point in trying. If you really love her you will try to have a conversation, if she doesn't want to tell you the issue then maybe she isn't right for you

[saveamarriage]

If she wants a break, you gotta give her space. Whether you agree or not, giving her space is your only option if you want chance to stay with her. Trying to invade her space after she told you not to, will only push her farther away. Whether she does just want a break to clear her head, or wants to break up is hard to say by the small amount of information you gave. But if she wants space, you do need to give her some space for a while. There are some very specific steps to take while approaching her again. You will have a good chance of gaining her back. You do however need to take a good look at yourself and the relationship, from an outside perspective so your emotions don't fog your mind. And make changes before you do approach her again.