just friends

[quarter]

i had feelings a while ago for a very good friend of mine. i told her how i felt, and she said she only saw me as a friend. im not too hung up on it and im moving on, but i just want to know if anybody has ever successfully changed their friend's mind about them. or if anybody has ever experienced a change of heart with regards to their friend. if you have changed your friend's mind or if you were that friend please share your story. any thoughts on the subject are welcome. a woman's perspective is particularly welcome. thanks!

[Jen33]

No one has ever successfully changed my feelings from friend to more than friends but it could certainly happen in the right circumstances. You probably need to find ways that the person can see your best qualities in a good light. Sometimes it is about timing also. A person may not be interested at this time because they are interested in someone else with different qualities. If that pursuit turns sour for whatever reason, the person may quickly adjust their mindset about which qualities matter most in a romantic partner.

Or the person may not yet be ready for settling down for the long term. The criteria in selecting a romantic partner can change once a person starts thinking about the long term.

Before I was ready to settle, fun, playful, and confident were most interesting. Generally once I was serious about settling down, kind and humorous were the main qualities I looked for in a long term companion. I would try to play those up to the extent you can. . .

Out of curiosity has revealing your feelings affected your friendship?

[quarter]

well i actually spoke to her less than a week ago. we'll have to see if it changes anything haha. thanks for your advice and honesty!

[deeblondie82]

Maybe she just sees you as a friend because she feels that being your friend is best. Most girls who put a guy in friend zone either isnt interested in them in that way, just dont want to ruin a good friendship or just dont want something serious right now. I would just play it by ear... being a great friend first always is good, may lead to something or you will have a great friend out of it all.