It sounds like you don't really want to be "submissive", which is related to BDSM, but you want a woman to wear a strap on and "peg" you. That's what us Yanks call it.
Some girls like it, most don't. You need to go to a kinky dating website to find girls who do like it. But most of THOSE are into BDSM, not just strap on fun.
It doesn't mean you're gay, it just means you are curious. And it has nothing to do with BDSM unless that's what you want.
EDIT: I just read your latest post. Sounds like you maybe want a woman to be assertive and tell you what she wants, without you having to guess? Date a Canadian. They are great! (My last gf was Canadian.)
Last edited by bulrush; 09-07-11 at 03:24 AM.
I have a long time interest in psychology, specializing in relationship dynamics for 30 years.
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