We as a couple were supposed to and planned to move out last year but he completely went behind my back and moved out with his brother instead.. even when i had told him how important this was to me. That is when things went terribly wrong.
And... that should have been when you realized that he did not want that kind of committment with you yet. That you were wanting what he did not.
"well, it seems like you are more interested in meeting men asking for their number etc"
Notice how he completely took the focus off the subject of moving in together? Great stall tactic.
He knows how important it is to me, and he just completely blows it off.
Notice how he doesn't care what you want?
I am stuck what to do. Am i being unreasonable? Should i leave if he continues to come up with excuses?
I dont know what i should.. Sorry it is long but i would LOVE some advice.
You could leave him right now or, you could tell him that you know that he's not ready to commit to a live in situation (because its obvious he's not) but you would like to know when, if ever he may be. Hopefully he'll tell you the truth and it won't be just stringing you along for as long as you'll let him. 2-1/2 years of dating isn't very long when you think that you would hopefully be together for the rest of your lives. Make sure you're going to live with someone that is right for you. I think that's what he might be doing.
Last edited by Wakeup; 21-07-11 at 08:59 AM.
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