Hi guys,
I started dating a guy (male Aries) who was very peresistent. I didn't want to start anything with him because I was concerned about the 5 year age difference and the fact that I have been married before. He's 29. I don't feel less than anyone do to my past, but I know that culturally, that could have been an issue his family would have. He inisted and kept pursuing me. I finally decided to give it a chance. Things were great. I was taking it light-heartedly, until he asked me to take him serious. So I did...but I still gave him enough space and didn't smother him at all. He said many things a girl wants to hear. How this was different, how he loved our chemistry. He was very open about how 'into' me/us he was.
After a couple of months (and we didn't not meet too often as we both led a busy life) - he began getting distant. I met with him to talk and once again, he told me I was the best woman who had every walked into his life. That said, he also said he is affraid. When I asked of what, he said the age difference. While that was frustrating and sad to hear (coz that's what I had been saying all along BEFORE we started dating), I could do nothing but accept it. When I offered to leave him alone, he said he didn't want me to. He said he didn't want to loose me. He began asking if I wanted children. He also asked how long I would think we would need to date until I would know if I waned him for marriage. When I told him, he looked at me and told me that he ALREADY knows that he wants me for life. During the same conversation, he told me about how he's told his family members about me and how they were surprised to hear HIM talk about someone this way. He also told me that his aunt said, 'Mary her'. He went on to say that he's already fallen for me...
What is extremely frustrating about this situation is that after all that - he went silent. I tried reaching out with little to no response. All I asked for was that he not string me along. I asked if this was what he wanted...he didn't answer that either. I didn't pursue much after that talk other than a couple of text messages. After I got nothing back I let go. Few days ago I also dropped him off Facebook. I know that may sound childish, but I didn't do it out of spite or anger. I just felt like I needed to do it for me to move on and let go (He's very active and posts alot and also gets alot of attention from girls...not something I want to see daily).
Makes me really sad because we did have amazing chemsistry/passion and playfulness. I miss him.
Any advice on what may be happening is appreciated. Thank you.