Originally Posted by
ctr916
Why can't nice guys get laid simply by asking women if they have a high sex drive or simply haven't met any quota they may have for themselves?
Nice guys CAN get laid by being honest about their needs. It works for me. Consistently. But I don't call it "getting laid". I WANT a long term relationship where we "make love". I WANT the intimacy that sex brings. I also pick girls that I have a lot in common with. So, last 3 girlfriends, we slept together on the first date, only because we had a lot in common. And we were all happy about it with no regrets, and no one getting hurt. But first we talked a LOT on the phone and online. I had to make sure they weren't crazy, and that we had a lot in common.
The other thing is, I know where to find open-minded women who are not immature nor bitter. Major dating websites are NOT the place to find them.
One rule is, if you're a "nice guy" you still have to make the first move. Ask them out first, kiss them first, rip off their clothes first. Women are not perfect and are very sensitive to how others might perceive them if they make the first move. Society says they should not be sexual, but I disagree, and so I make the first move, telling them it's ok to shag my brains out because I don't judge.
Oh, I have secrets, but it's not about "tricking" women. And I'm not telling them either. It's about meeting women's needs.
Last edited by bulrush; 24-07-11 at 11:41 PM.
I have a long time interest in psychology, specializing in relationship dynamics for 30 years.
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