Should I go for it?

[missnw]

I have this "friend" who unexpectedly lived with me for awhile, (I needed a temporary roommate, he needed a place to live for a few months) we got along great and it was platonic until the very end, we hooked up one night. I made the move on him, but he went along with it He is back in town, and has been calling and texting me a lot, and we've hung out several times. He does have a lot of close girl friends, and I have a feeling I might be in the "friend zone" but I don't know. I totally have a crush on him and I'm not trying to be his girl friend or freak him out by coming on too strong, but I'm feeling sexual tension...maybe that is just me, I'm too scared to make a move again! We've never talked about the hook-up...the other day he was asking me about one of my friends uhhh so that kind of makes me think he only thinks of me as a friend..Thoughts?

[maxmax]

She who dares, wins.

What have you got to lose by trying?

[meatbomb]

I'd say you may well be in the friend zone. As glib as it may sound you'll just have to ask the fella. I expect if he was dead keen he'd have pursued you a little?

[jb1111983]

You're friend zoned. From the sounds of things he wouldn't mind to hook up with you again though.
Look, if a guy really likes you, you won't have to guess.

[bulrush]

Some guys are shy, or the girl may be seen as "ungettable" so they won't even try. Or the guy assumes the girl just liked him for one night, and couldn't possibly like him for more than that. So Missnw, ask him!

[JfnL]

Just touch him on the thigh and go "Remember that night we had?" then something will happen, good or bad, you've got to take the risk that you'll fall if you want to fly

[Mathias]

Just touch him on the thigh and go "Remember that night we had?" then something will happen, good or bad, you've got to take the risk that you'll fall if you want to fly

You're just asking to be FWB by doing this. If that's what you want, great. If not, try a different approach.

[rafterman]

I'd try it on him. If he nails you he may still want to nail your friends as well,so be ready for it. Hope this helps

[missnw]

well thanks guys. He's been calling and texting like everyday...I think I'll leave the ball in his court...see what happens.

[maxmax]

well thanks guys. He's been calling and texting like everyday...I think I'll leave the ball in his court...see what happens.

So, he's making all the effort ... and you want him to continue making the effort without reciprocating or taking the step to acknowledge his attention?

If you leave it with him for much longer there wont be a ball in anyone's court and you may have lost out.

[squire654]

I'm not sure whether you just want a fling or a relationship. If you want a fling sounds like you got that made. If you want a relationship, you'll have to talk to him about it. "So, what, in a perfect world, would you want from me?". "Should we start seeing each other?" Words to that effect.