Weird Situation.. Need Advice

[play60]

First of all, I would like to tell you how thankful I am to have found this site. It looks very useful and has some good advice. I'm glad to be a member.

On to my situation...

I am currently interning this summer at a rather large company. There is this intern who I have been interested in for some time. Her name is Sarah. Sarah and I have talked at work. We don't see each other every day as we work in different departments. I really like her and would like to pursue her.

We have hung out outside of work a few times, but never alone. We went out at an interns house and drank, etc. Things went really well and we talked a lot. I would think she is into me. She looked me up and added me on Facebook. Things were looking good until the other day.

All of us interns had an outing at a baseball game. It was a lot of fun. I ended up talking and hanging out with her for quite a bit. At the end of the night, however, she walked back to our bus holding hands with this other intern, Steve. They also sat on the bus together. This sounds so immature but it obviously bothered me. I pretty much chalked it up as a loss and looked to move on until today.

Today, Sarah IM'd me at work (we have an IM system for all employees). She asked me if I wanted to go out tomorrow night and that she wanted to see if any other interns were interested. Steve doesn't work at our location. I think we've seen him three times all summer. I told her that I'd be interested. Later, she IM'd me again and told me that we'd be going out in the town that our company is located. I said cool and asked who all is coming. She mentioned numerous people but also mentioned that Steve will be coming. I really have no interest in hanging out with all of the interns and see her and Steve get together (all of the other interns are lame). Also, we will be pregaming it at Steve's until we go to the bars. Sarah and Steve have obviously exchanged numbers and have talked/texted each other.

What is your take of the situation?

If I go, I don't want to be around them if they do like one another. I won't be bitter, but I'd rather not see it.

If she is interested in me and I blow it off I will look like a jerk.

Maybe she is interested in us both?

Maybe she'd rather hang out in a group to get to know Steve more comfortably?

At this point I'm leaning on just avoiding the whole situation and throw in the towel.

Other information: I have lived and grew up in the city that our internship is in so I know the area. Sarah is not from around her. Steve goes to college here. She will be moving/living here after the summer as a full-time employee.

Hopefully I didn't come across as too much of a bitch in my first post/thread.

Thanks in advance and best of luck to all of you!

[smackie9]

Dude she is dating Steve. Holding hands walking to the bus,etc is a dead give away. Just because a girl is socially nice to you doesn't mean she wants you for a BF. You are getting the wrong impression of her intentions.....you are friend zoned like totally.

[smackie9]

Tip: never invest your feels for anyone unless you are actually together as a couple. Also if you like someone, ask them questions about their dating status, like does she have a bf, etc. If she says anything about, Im not ready for a relationship, I just got out of a bad relationship, too busy to date, have too much going on in their life....that means Ìm not interested". If there is no BF and no lame ass excuses then ask her out.....never wait for weeks to do it. Confidence will win you a girl.

[play60]

Thanks for your advice. I appreciate it. You're right.

I'm going to play it by ear tomorrow. I'm not going over to his place and hanging out, but if she wants to hang out with me then it's game on.

I haven't felt like this in years. I feel like some dumb teenager who has his first big crush. It's very annoying.

[Sonrisa]

i'd go and have a good time and hopefully meet new people. never refuse an opportunity to get out

[play60]

I'll still go out with other friends, just not with them.

I was fine with it until this afternoon. I was thrown off when she asked me first to hang out and to make some plans. Oh well.