One way love?

[Phoenix23]

I'm 26, she's 19.

She felt an instant attachment and love for me that she has never let up with.
I, however, just never had that same kind of quick feeling like we absolutely must be together.
She has gotten upset that I don't feel the same way she does.

I've had that feeling before, and when I have it was mutual - We both felt it for each other.
So i'm not sure what to make of a situation where it is only one way. Does that mean that maybe she's mistaken about the way she feels, or maybe I'm the one that has trouble not feeling the same way, or maybe it's possible to be meant for each other and still not both have the same kind of initial connection?

Over time I have developed stronger feelings for her, but still can't shake the feeling that maybe we're not meant for each other because our personalities and interests are so different (although I know it's possible that opposites can attract and compliment each other), that maybe she's letting other emotions get away with her and thinking more highly of me than she ought to (I also am forced to wonder if maybe because she's younger and less expereinced that she may be looking at this differently than I am).

I can't seem to sort through my feelings to get a clear answer on what the right thing to do is: To let the relationship get more serious even though I have doubts that never fully go away, or to tell her how I feel and look elsewhere for someone who may be the right one for me.

I don't know what to do or how to understand my situation, so any help or advice is appreciated.

[ladyofevilness]

I think because shes young her feelings may feel more intense to her, but in reality there more than likely the same as yours, but if you just dont have anything in common, besides being mutually attracted to each other then I'd say the relationship probably wont last. You need a foundation to build on, and with out some kind of common ground, like shared interest or goals then it's gonna make for a pretty unsteady base to build on.

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[devonbrown]

You made a good point about differences being okay in a relationship when you said

although I know it's possible that opposites can attract and compliment each other

The second part of that is what most people forget. If the differences don't compliment each other, then you just wind up butting heads over and over again.

The thing is that you don't really know how she feels because she hasn't told you. That could be a communication issue. If you talk with her about it and still feel like she isn't feeling for you how you feel for her, it is probably just a matter of time until you two end things.

Do your best to work with her in figuring things out. But understand that every relationship ends until the one that doesn't.

Good luck.

[Phoenix23]

I think because shes young her feelings may feel more intense to her, but in reality there more than likely the same as yours, but if you just dont have anything in common, besides being mutually attracted to each other then I'd say the relationship probably wont last. You need a foundation to build on, and with out some kind of common ground, like shared interest or goals then it's gonna make for a pretty unsteady base to build on.

Our life goals may be in line pretty well. Our interests and activities necessarily aren't.
I always thought that "the one" for you would have so much in common that you'd be inseparable in everything you do, but I may be wrong there. It's entirely possible that my idea of who the one perfect woman for me is, is different than what I have in my mind.

We don't always have a lot to talk about because our interests don't align and our personalities both tends towards the quiet. But we enjoy just being around each other.

The thing is that you don't really know how she feels because she hasn't told you. That could be a communication issue. If you talk with her about it and still feel like she isn't feeling for you how you feel for her, it is probably just a matter of time until you two end things.

Do your best to work with her in figuring things out. But understand that every relationship ends until the one that doesn't.

You might have understood my post backwards. She's the one who feels strongly, I'm the one who is reserved.
I know where she stands.
It's me I am having trouble figuring out. I'm wondering if maybe there's something wrong with me coming to terms with how I feel for her, or if she's moving much faster in her feelings than she should be.
I'm still trying to gauge if there is long term potential here, but she's convinced I'm the one for her.

[oldskool83]

Ever hear ya gotta roll with it, how are ya gonna know if ya chicken out and dont try. Shes young i will say but ive seen stranger things happen.