Friend that keeps trying, anyone every have one?

[oldskool83]

I've had a friend for quite awhile who is always unlucky in love. She does'nt always like who I decide to be with but says she wont be a home wrecker. She checks in everynow and then asking how things normal friend stuff. We eat out every now and then when a good burger is needed, prob hang an hour or 2 and peace.

She called me up 4th of july saying she was in one of them moods and I should go out to eat with her...I had already ate earlier and was low on cash so she told me she'd pay and to be ready in 15 mins. I figured ok why not, Im sitting at home alone tonight anyway, Few hours later I got a text saying she missed hangin out with me. We get along pretty well, can seem to bitch and laugh about anything. But friends can do that from what I know. My response was yeah everyones saying they have missed me since ive had time to reconnect with all my old friends. Next she texted me, you know the real reason.

I keep downing shit and telling her you need to just be my friend whatever happens. Days later shes inviting me to a bar/club and saying we can slipt a room...BAD idea cuz remeber I'm in some situations right now in my life I want to resolve 1 by 1. I declinded but said we can do lunch or dinner one night like normal. Days later shes asking me if we are on for a day at the amusment park...I went last year with her cuz I had a mandatory week off from work. I've known my since 9th grade...I'm 27 now. Well this year I'm busy at work so my mandatory week off has now become only 1 day off in which I have car service planed on that day.

Days later shes inviting me to her family. On out 4th of july get together she was saying she meet this guy kinda like but but hes not me...strong bold words. I belive shes the type that would leave sum1 to just be able to have a shot with me, but I am nothing special, just a normal person, normal flaws etc. Not sure how i match up with her pickyness in men.

A week ago she asked me how me and sum1 were, i told her what was up, next response was "if you ever want a serious and comitted g/f andrelationship you know where to find me.

Shes even said bad things happen to me cuz i wont date her...I mean funny buy odd at same time lol. Shes big into the sunsign BS crap saying me being a virgo and her scorpio are like some perfect match and has texted and emailed me that stuff numerious times over the last 1.5 years.

I enjoy hangin with her, I just dont understand the constant push for trying to help me choose. Anyone every do this so much they finaly got the person? I'm not playing hard to get, in fact im not even playin, shes my friend.

Any advice on what to do with her, all my friends know shes after me, other women in my life know shes either wanted me or wants me also.

[MerryH]

You're leading her on. Stop letting her buy you meals and stop hanging out with her. She probably needs time away from you to move past you.

[oldskool83]

from what i know she has a bf now, not that i even care im happy for her lol. I still owe her a meal. Normaly we hang maybe once a month or every other month after work on a thurs or friday for diner only and checks always separate. Not trying to lead the girl on cuz somone else is in my life anyway. I just want to keep my friend

[ctr916]

I've had a friend for quite awhile who is always unlucky in love. She does'nt always like who I decide to be with but says she wont be a home wrecker. She checks in everynow and then asking how things normal friend stuff. We eat out every now and then when a good burger is needed, prob hang an hour or 2 and peace.

She called me up 4th of july saying she was in one of them moods and I should go out to eat with her...I had already ate earlier and was low on cash so she told me she'd pay and to be ready in 15 mins. I figured ok why not, Im sitting at home alone tonight anyway, Few hours later I got a text saying she missed hangin out with me. We get along pretty well, can seem to bitch and laugh about anything. But friends can do that from what I know. My response was yeah everyones saying they have missed me since ive had time to reconnect with all my old friends. Next she texted me, you know the real reason.

I keep downing shit and telling her you need to just be my friend whatever happens. Days later shes inviting me to a bar/club and saying we can slipt a room...BAD idea cuz remeber I'm in some situations right now in my life I want to resolve 1 by 1. I declinded but said we can do lunch or dinner one night like normal. Days later shes asking me if we are on for a day at the amusment park...I went last year with her cuz I had a mandatory week off from work. I've known my since 9th grade...I'm 27 now. Well this year I'm busy at work so my mandatory week off has now become only 1 day off in which I have car service planed on that day.

Days later shes inviting me to her family. On out 4th of july get together she was saying she meet this guy kinda like but but hes not me...strong bold words. I belive shes the type that would leave sum1 to just be able to have a shot with me, but I am nothing special, just a normal person, normal flaws etc. Not sure how i match up with her pickyness in men.

A week ago she asked me how me and sum1 were, i told her what was up, next response was "if you ever want a serious and comitted g/f andrelationship you know where to find me.

Shes even said bad things happen to me cuz i wont date her...I mean funny buy odd at same time lol. Shes big into the sunsign BS crap saying me being a virgo and her scorpio are like some perfect match and has texted and emailed me that stuff numerious times over the last 1.5 years.

I enjoy hangin with her, I just dont understand the constant push for trying to help me choose. Anyone every do this so much they finaly got the person? I'm not playing hard to get, in fact im not even playin, shes my friend.

Any advice on what to do with her, all my friends know shes after me, other women in my life know shes either wanted me or wants me also.

Being "threatened" with a full body massage with happy ending from me is usually enough to cure most chicks.

[Superfantastich]

try toning down the "friend dates" and next time she says something about you two getting together perhaps try and make it obvious that it is not going to happen.