Hey girls I need some advice if this is a common way of thinking for girls out there. My gf of 3 months and I had a talk about pregnancy and we decided that if she got pregnant we would have an abortion(don't want to get political but it's what we decided). She then says to me that if she does get pregnant that she can't be with me anymore. I said well I wouldn't want that to happen and I would want to be there for you and hope you would be there for you.she didn't budge and said if it happens then were done.
I understand that if something like that happens then the relationship might suffer and would end bc it's a really stressful situation. But to go into something like that happening with the mindset that it's over makes no sense to me. I want her to go into a situation like that thinking that we could make it through it and if it doesn't work out then it doesn't.
It really has me rethinking moving ahead with her. If she can leave like that then how am I suppose to feel connected an close when I know it could all be over,and it's not something I have control over. Were both doing the right things to not get pregnant,but it really has me stressing during sex now. I like this girl a lot and am looking for a long term relationship. But I really feel like this put a dent in it,and she is unwilling to budge on the issue.
It's like She's putting restrictions on something I have no control over,she's on birth control and not having sex isn't an option. If she said if you cheat then I'm done then I can understand that bc I have full control over that. It's similar to her saying if you get laid off then I'm dumping you.
I guess it's just really making me rethink her commitment to me and how devoted to the relationship she is. I'm having a hard time feeling close to her now,an every time we have sex now I think well this could be the time I lose her. My questions are is this normal? Do most girls think like this? Do you think this is a red flag that she's not good for a LTR? Would any of you say something like this and put those restrictions on someone? Thanks in advance for all answers.