Hey everyone. I'm new here and hope to gain something out of this site...even if it's just support. Sorry it's kind of long..
I met this guy just over 2 months ago. Everything was AWESOME in the beginning. We became inseperatable within 2 weeks. I found out that he had been casually texting a girl that he had been seeing prior to me. I found this out when the girl messaged me on fb. He had been overseas for work and i found this out 3 days into his trip. I couldn't call him (he's in the army) so i messaged him on fb telling him that i knew about her. I broke up with him. Anyway, after 2 months of him literally BEGGING, sending me flowers/presents, emails, messages...even so far as to message my mum...i told him that we would talk about it when he got back. Well, he arrived home a few days ago and the first 2 days were good. I didn't bring up anything negative..i knew how stressful the the trip to Afghanistan was for him. So i decided to bring it up on the third day. Well, he didn't seem to be paying attention so i had a go at him, and stupid me left his house to go home. As soon as i got home, i instantly regretted leaving his place and felt like an idiot, so i called him to try and patch things over. He told me that he would see me later, because he had made plans to see his friends and have drinks. I felt like he was going out in spite of the argument. Anyway, i messaged him a few times that night and he only responded to some of my texts. He wouldn't answer my calls. He told me i could go to his place anytime i wanted too, so i ended up driving there and waited till he got home (another mistake-i know). He got home at 3am and we had a big argument. His WHOLE attitude changed in just a few hours. I stayed the night (on the lounge) and tried talking to him in the morning. He hardly spoke to me and said that he thought we needed "space". He told me i need to have a few days without him because my moods are up and down and that i need to rethink whether or not we should be together and that he needed to think also. I told him that he just arrived home after being AWAY FROM ME FOR 9 WEEKS!!! He refuses to speak to me. I have done the stupid weak thing by texting him and he hasn't replied so i wont be texting him anymore. I just can't believe how quickly his attitude has changed. In the 9 weeks that he was away-he was DESPERATE...messaging me all the time, calling me when he could..and now he wont even speak to me...arg! I know what he did in the beginning was deceptive, but at the same time (and no im not making excuses) but i had only just met him. If he had dont something like that a few months+ into our "relationship", than i wouldn't be talking to him. He just seemed so apologetic i feel as though i can now put all that behind us and start fresh. What should i do?