Don't really know anything about his ex's/no of people he's been with...

[Wakeup]

You've been seeing him 9 months. Have you met his mother, been to his home, hung out with him and his friends?

I dunno doll, you know him better than us, but I'd be wanting to know why if you've already planned something then why would he arrange to reherse on that particular night? Like he couldn't see you and rehearse the following evening?

[kinks]

You've been seeing him 9 months. Have you met his mother, been to his home, hung out with him and his friends?

I dunno doll, you know him better than us, but I'd be wanting to know why if you've already planned something then why would he arrange to reherse on that particular night? Like he couldn't see you and rehearse the following evening?

Yep, I've met his parents a few times. His dad lives abroad and his mum lives quite far so she only visits him a couple of times a year, and his dad once. So it's was nice that I met them. He can't reschedule rehearsals because he has to do his music in his free time since he can't afford to do it full time and has a full time job in a shop. He told me how there three people in our relationship though when I got upset about him cancelling on me him, me and the guy he sings with... he's actually that passionate about it. It's something he really loves so I feel if I keep getting upset about it he might start resenting me.

[devonbrown]

He can't reschedule rehearsals

But the question was, did he schedule plans with you before or after his rehearsals were scheduled. If he scheduled rehearsals after your plans, then he doesn't have any respect for your relationship. He may be into his music, but he is basically saying you are less important. And if he scheduled your plans at times when his rehearsals were scheduled, he didn't really make viable plans with you in the first place.

Basically, if he does his music in his "free time" what time does that leave for your relationship?

[Wakeup]

It's something he really loves so I feel if I keep getting upset about it he might start resenting me.

So what is the alternative? You stfu and accept his bullshit or he'll leave you?
Don't let him make you a door mat who accepts his way or the highway. Keep in mind you're feeling resentment but he doesn't give a shit about that.

Sorry, but he's quite concerned about his own self and apparently thinks if you don't like it you can "take a break." Ugh.

Surely there must be a compromise that he could have come up with instead of cancelling on you 6 frigging times.

Don't put up with disrespect and apathy about your feelings from this guy just because he's the one that took your virginity. A hyman is no reason to be taken for granted as a way of life.