Lessons learned in love?
I believe in life there is always something you can learn [about yourself or others] in all situations. Relationships are no different, especially ones that didn't work. The difficulty in this is that many of us, including myself, have a tendancy to blame ourselves more so than the other person. Despite this struggle I think that eventually (if you want to learn from your or other's mistakes) the lesson(s) becomes clear.
I hate being bogged down by emotional turmoil and usually do the work to move past it. So I ask are there others out there willing to share their lessons learned in love?
I'll start. The recent lesson I have learned, which is not easy to bare, is to trust my gut and my intuition. I saw red flags in the first two dates and ignored them. I honestly think that had I done anything different it still wouldn't have changed the outcome. I hope that by acknowledging this I come closer to acceptance and to avoid holding any grudges against him.
We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts, we make our world.
“When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.” – Lao Tzu