So i've been together with this girl who i met at college for almost a year now and things have been pretty good. I love being with her and i'm pretty much always happy with her.
During the summer, though, i don't get the chance to see her as often since we live in different states except for a few times when we visited each other. Now, because of this, we can only talk through texting or on the phone or skype.
My problem is that she wants to talk much more than i do. Every day we'll start out with a good morning text and have a small texting conversation for maybe about half an hour. Then we'll usually text each other at some point or multiple points of the day to check in or if we have something interesting to say. Finally, at night it is common for us to text for two to three hours, sometimes more, before one of us goes to bed. additionally, we usually call each other and/or skype two to three times a week.
Now, I am not the biggest fan of texting because i think it is a waste of time as opposed to just talking on the phone. It seems impossible for me, however, to be able to talk on the phone with her without it being a two to three hour affair. The problem is that we always run out of things to talk about. What will usually happen is we'll have a good solid hour of conversation before we have nothing more to say and i'll be ready to get off. Whenever I try to get off, however, she'll start to criticize me for not wanting to talk to her, even though that's not the case at all. I would just rather spend my time doing something i enjoy than sitting silent on the phone or having the same i love you, i love you more back and forth. If we had not been texting each other all day, perhaps i would be able to talk longer since we wouldn't already have told each other everything about our day. But, if I stay on with her, she'll jokingly say "you're boring" or something like that because i'm not saying anything, even though she doesn't have anything to say either. I don't want to feel pressured to rack my mind for stupid things to talk about just to keep the conversation going.
So it seems the simple solution would be to text less and just have phone conversations. When i don't text her during the day, however, she gets upset with me for not keeping in touch with her. I think a big reason for this is that she really doesn't do much at home. she rarely ever hangs out with her friends and just sits at home watching tv or on the internet. I usually hang out with my couple of best friends nearly every day. So, she is usually at home bored while i am with my friends. The way I view it, I am home for the summer and I want to be able to hang out with my family and good friends from high school that I don't get to see for most of the year without having to constantly be talking with her which takes away from my time with them. I also think she should be doing the same
Additionally, recently she got upset with me for not ever being the one to call her or ask to skype, since she is usually the one that does. My reason for this, though, is that i really have nothing to say to her after texting all day and i don't want to get on the phone or something and have it be awkwardly silent and then have the conversation be completely dead.
Basically, I don't know what to think because I feel like she is smothering me with always wanting to talk. She doesn't do much during the day leaving me with the burden of coming up with most of the conversation and I absolutely hate it. When we are together, however, we get along just fine. I just want to be able to live my life at home without constantly feeling like i need to tend to and entertain her and i just don't know how i can break that to her without her getting upset with me but i dont know how to do that.