Please help, confusedddd girl ( guys situation) Sorry for long post

[outofbound11]

So i've had this friend Eddy for awhile, we met in high school my sophomore yr and have a lot of mutual friends. Sadly Eddy moved away to California the end of my sophomore year, but b4 he left, i could tell we had feelings for each other. The day b4 eddy left to move to CA, we had our first kiss which was amazinggg. Eddy and i kept in close contact for about a year, and he'd come back to visit every summer about. We sadly feel out of contact after my Junior yr in high school, but during my senior yr i found out he was dating this girl in my class. They dated for about 2 months and then called it quits. He then started dating this other girl in CA, and that relationship was for about 2 yrs. They just broke up about 7 months ago. I am now a junior in College and, Eddy is now back in town ( been about 2 months he's been here) and i had texted him to see how he was and to let him know that i would love to see him. We ended up going to a party a few days later and had a great time ( every party we've been to in the past month he's been by me all night, getting me things, asking me if i am okay, walking me out to my car once it's time for me to go etc.) The first time we saw each other about a month ago we had a 2nd kiss which was amazing. You could definitely tell that feelings were still there. The next night we went to another party and we started making out in my car (no sex, just kissing) and i ended up telling him how i felt about him b4 he had left for CA. He proceeds by telling me that he had no idea i felt that way about him, and how the feelings were mutual. A few minutes later he stops kissing me and says "lets just be friends" " you are to good for me". It was completely out of the blue he said that, but i just went along with it. That very next day he asks me out to the movies. I go and he ends up paying for every thing, put his arm around me in theater, and we made out a lot that night. We recently went to the city with a bunch of friends, and the whole day he was glued to my side. He asked to pay for my meal, asked to pay really for every thing. Our friends think we are dating, but we definitely are not! I can really tell this guy likes me, he stares at me all the time and smiles, and gosh he just melts my heart. I've never found a guy like Eddy. A complete shy gentleman. He told every one once he got here that he was staying here to go to school, now a month later, he's saying he may have to go back to CA next month. Could this be why he wont make any thing of "us" ? I'm just so confused as to what is going on with us. I refuse to ask, because he told me out of the blue " lets just be friends" this was about a month ago, but he doesn't act or treat me like he just wants to be friends. Some one please help me figure out what's going on! Thanks

[Kyrina]

I refuse to ask, because he told me out of the blue " lets just be friends" this was about a month ago, but he doesn't act or treat me like he just wants to be friends.
Honey being stubborn and refusing to ask is not getting what you need if you want a committed relationship you need to speak to each other,ask him if he tells you great if he dishes you off well be happy you got out of it before much harm was done.
Problems are often easily sorted if people just talk.You told him how you felt and feel now give him the chance to tell you he may be a guy but even they have trouble expressing their emotions,maybe he fears rejection,who knows just talk to him ask why he only wants to be friends .Good luck

[outofbound11]

Yeah your so right. Thank you so much for the reply!

[Wakeup]

ended up telling him how i felt about him b4 he had left for CA. He proceeds by telling me that he had no idea i felt that way about him, and how the feelings were mutual. A few minutes later he stops kissing me and says "lets just be friends" " you are to good for me".

Call me cynical but a guy who wanted to be your boyfriend would have jumped at the chance to be with a girl that just confessed that she liked him and wanted more with him. You made it very easy for him to envelope you in his arms and agree to be more than "friends" or (sorry to say a possible fk buddy). Don't mistake his lust for love. I suggest you refrain from having sex with this boy until he is willing to commit to you so that you know for certain that he likes you more that friends or friends with benefits. you already have feelings for him, if you add sex to the mix you'll surely lose your joy to him when he continues to screw you while dating others.

Have a definate conversation with him about wanting to be his exclusive girlfriend BEFORE you bed him. Protect your own emotional health because he won't care about that if he's getting unstringed sex from you.