Nice, funny, cute girls - Where are you hiding?

[chuck_finley]

Hi everyone, I'm new here and this is my first post so I thought I'd start by saying hello .

I'm 23, and have only ever been in 3 (almost back-to-back) relationships, the longest of which was just over 2 years. For the most part each of these were great, filled with a lot of fun and in the last two, a lot of love as well. However, for various reasons I'm now single (though still friends with all my exes) - which has been a refreshing change for a while but I've recently been missing having someone in my life.

I don't have a problem meeting women as such, but I seem to attract the kind of sultry, seductive type of girl that most people would describe as 'hot' - and who invariably turn out to be quite cold or selfish. It may have something to do with the fact that in I play rugby to stay in good shape, work in corporate law and am generally friends with a lot of those 'alpha-male' types - so that's what strangers see when they look at me.

However, that's only a part of who I am. I'm a lot more sensitive than that and actually like doing things like watching chick flicks with someone, and I like cuddling and cooking for someone etc rather than just seeing it something that has to be done in a relationship. And I actually prefer cute, friendly girls with great personalities to the size 0's wearing an assortment of italian clothing designed to make them look as 2-dimentional as their personalities. But they're all I ever seem to meet. That said, it doesn't mean looks aren't important to me as well, I'm a guy, that's how we work - but I'm looking for a pretty girl who's more than just her appearance.

But I have no idea where to meet the kind of girl I'm looking for or even how to start a relationship. My last girlfriends have all come from one-night stands - I've kind of just been lucky that the girl I've woken up next to has been sweet and I've wanted to see her again and get to know her. But that can't be the best way to go about meeting women. It seems at the moment that the only time I meet women is in clubs but real conversations are almost impossible and there's often too much alcohol involved for anything more than sexual impulse.

Does anyone have any tips or advice for me?

Charles

[smackie9]

If you are in the corporate world, do what most doctors, lawyer, business people do........hire a matchmaker. You tell them what you want, match your income, etc and they do the searching for you and set up the dates. easy.

[pisces25]

Join some different clubs or do some different activities designed for meeting singles, cooking classes, singles meet-ups etc. Or try online dating?