Friendship or more ?? I finally put it out there & Im still mystified ?? Help

[SOUL SISSSSTA]

So I have known this guy for five years we work together, he is a really good friend and we have lots of fun together and occasionally hang outside of the office.. He has introduced me to his closest friends and has invited me to special holiday events he talks about me to his friends .. but he has not made a move yet the vibes are there ?? I am absolutely mystified time and time again he dislays jelousy when i talk to other guys at work he flirts constantly and treats me differently than he would every other girl, there is definately a mutual attraction and spark as well as chemistry between us yet I cant figure out what the hold up is ?? I have had feelings for him for a few years and never had the courage to bring it up because in the past (when we first met) i made that mistake and he rejected me in a nasty way, and the next day wanted to talk about it - i was too hurt so we never did discuss it he did send me a text that he was sorry he didnt mean to hurt me and that he is tactless when it comes to this sort of stuff and that he wanted to talk about it but I ran home .. we did grow closer, now we are good friends but even our communication and meet ups are so occasional and not that consistant ? is he into me or not I just dont get it ; ? the last time we met up outside of work was a few months ago at his cousins house with a bunch of his couple friends and he brought me .. of course pple were asking me if we were together and he paid for me and was showing signs he was with me and when i wasnt looking i could feel his eyes on me scoping me out but nothing happend , no kiss no nothing .... of course the whole ride home we were talking in "general" about relationships and how hard it is for him because he got so used to being alone bla bla and he was asking me if I recently dated anyone and that I am at the perfect age to get married - he also asked how often i think couples should meet up during the week (which im sure stemmed from his fear of being suffocated by a relationship) and another time mentioned how our boss asked him if he has feelings for me and if anything was going on between us ... Anyways with signs like that I just dont know .. and I do care for him a great deal

So finally last night we went out with some friends .. and later left alone together, he walked me to my car and we were both pretty much lingering there ... out of nowhere a cab comes along and stops by us to ask for directions * the pple in the car were drunk and yelling "shes crazy about you , Im a sexologist I know, it was hysterical and then they asked how long are you two together 3 months so he answered yes and they drove off .. it was kind of embarrasing but Im glad it happened - so he then gave me a hug and a kiss on the cheek and I went home - On my way home I decided to BITE THE BULLET and just tell him how I feel so I wrote him in a text that the guy in the cab was crazy but to be honest I am attracted in case it wasnt clear .. he wrote back that he wants to talk about it face to face and not in texts .. ?????? Is this Good or bad Its driving me nuts >> ? should I go equiped for a negative or positive reply ? I dont know ... any advice is welcome

Still mystified >?

[rafterman]

Sorry not going there. Lastime I went there, Things got hot, although I am "Locking and loading: ATM

[IndiReloaded]

Delete your other thread. Multiple posts of the same thing just piss the regulars off and you'll get even fewer replies.

[Benni]

I dated a guy that said the same thing-- will talk face-to-face, not through emails or text. It's because typing out words doesn't convey emotions very well and can sometimes be deceiving. I mis-read many things he wrote and he did the same with what I wrote and it led to arguments that never would've happened if we had talked face-to-face.

You won't know if it's good or bad until you meet with him and talk. Give it a go.

[Wakeup]

Is he gay? I dunno five years is a long time to be hanging with a guy you got a crush on and pining away for him. Go get yourself a boyfrined that wants to be with you in all ways. You've made it sound like he's using you to maintain his "in the closetism" Has he had a girlfriend in any of the five years you've known him? Have you had a REAL boyfriend in that time?

You both sound like you're wasting your romantic dating time on one another.

Let me know if after your talk it turns out I'm completely wrong and he wants to be your boyfriend now instead of your girlfriend with dangly bits.