need advice...

[Zanarkand]

ok here's my story...if u guys can help me out with this i'd appreciate it

i work with this girl on saturdays. its just me and her. i've known her since high school and she's my friends cousin. so we know each other pretty well. our job gets a lot of down time, we work at a rink so we basically just sit around while people use the ice. a few weeks ago i came up with this game where you hit a ball off this garage door in the back room. it's the dumbest thing ever but we play it and we break things and just laugh. i've come to find that she is so fun to be around and i try to make her laugh so much and i succeed. she would just stare at me sometimes for like 10 seconds or more like she was going to kiss me but i dont think she was going to. so last saturday i asked her to go see a movie with me and she said she had a boyfriend but she said she didnt think it was going to work so she asked if i could take a raincheck. we ended up seeing the movie "as friends..." we brought one of our friends with us to the movie. he made it really awkward and i didnt get a chance to really say anything to her. so after we left i texted her saying basically that... i didnt get a chance to say the things i wanted because of him. she said "im sorry, what did you want to say?". it wasnt the response i was expecting. i just said "its not something you say over a text message".

she never responded after that and during the week i kept busy with friends and crap. so today i worked with her for 7 hours. we had so much fun... like it was nonstop laughter all day. we kept throwing this ball at each other and throwing it around the office breaking things. a different girl we work with had her grad party there so there was a bunch of food out in the lobby. it was still just us two in the office. we were throwing food at each other and made a huge mess. i would tease her here and there and she would tease me. she went out on her smoke break and i was out there with her and i asked her if she wanted to see a movie with me and her cousin tonight. she said she already had plans but she wasnt sure. i then said when can i take my raincheck? (i felt like... we had such a fun day and yeah..) she said my name in that tone where she just wanted me to stop talking about it. i then said "do you even have a bf or did you just make that up...". she said she did and his name was "justin" and i said "what a beautiful name" in a smart ass tone. we were both quiet for a few minutes then went back inside. when we got inside she was upbeat like nothing had happened but it was obvious that it was eating away at me. she then said i could leave and she'll clean up the place which kinda disappointed me even more. so i just said okay and punched out and she was walking out the other door and she came back in and said she would text me about going to the movie because she wasnt sure if she was still up for her old plans. i just said alright and walked out.

so i work with her next saturday... but i want to be with her more... i texted her tonight saying "lets see the movie tomorrow? i had a lot of fun wtih you today". she never texted me about the movie and never responded to that. im a good looking guy, i dress sharp, i have a good looking face, i exercise and have always been in good shape. i've noticed she goes for a lot of trashy guys, like guys who smoke or do drugs and are just shit. i dont know why she does that. its like shes so into me when we work but she ignores me outside of work. i forgot to mention this , this is an edit, but she has had two boyfriends in the past month. she JUST started dating this other one. her other boyfriend was addicted to pain killers and other pills....i think that one lasted a week before she dumped him

[MaidenMinx]

She enjoys working with you and she has a boyfriend. That's about as simple and that.

[Zanarkand]

it can't be that simple... there has to be something there

[MaidenMinx]

Oh there is, but that is none of your business. She has a bf and it doesn't matter what type of low-life he is, she is with him.

Seriously, do you really want her to leave him for you? Think about it before you answer. If she leaves him for you there is a good chance that she will leave you for the next guy who turns her head.

Wouldn't you prefer to move on, keep yourself amused and open to the possibility that she might leave him of her own accord, heal and then maybe seek you out? If it is meant to be, it won't need to be forced.

[Zanarkand]

good advice, but how should i approach the future? should i continue to tease her at work? should i ask her if she wants to hangout with a group of our friends?

[MaidenMinx]

Just be cruisey and cool. Back off enough to let her know you are not going to be her back up boy.

Oh and if you want to keep your job, back of on 'playing' so much at work. If I was a boss and discovered my employees were having food fights, I'd fire you both.

[Zanarkand]

does cruisey mean 'to check someone out"? so should i just give her THE GAZE with my eyes everyone once and awhile? make her laugh here and there and keep conversation going?

[MaidenMinx]

Cruisey = relaxed, chilled, not bothered.

[Zanarkand]

that's usually how i am but i feel like that kind of behavior closes yourself off from people. im obnoxious at times because i like to have fun. i want to show her that im fun too, not just boring

[Zanarkand]

well i kept it cool, got a haircut so i was rocking that today too. she almost completely ignored me and sat on her phone the entire time lol. teased her a bit but i dont know. girls are too complicated when they shouldn't be. i thought she was fun to be around but i realized the only reason she was being fun was because i was fun and it rubbed off on her. it sucks being unique because its so hard to find someone else who is : /