Don't understand men.. need help please

[Laguna]

I know what it is. If you would read the whole thread you would realize I was talking to misombra and wondering how she thinks it's just a guy looking for sex when he was even scared to kiss her.

[Junket]

He kissed me goodbye the next day - on the cheek. (Note to guys - we hate that!)

Ahem...see this is where you chicks start to become confusing, is when you begin to speak for every other chick with stuff like "we hate that" "girls love it when-" type stuff.

Some loser no doubt will take what you say to heart and think he knows somethin' about girls simply because he got it from a girl, which will in most cases lead him to disaster.

[Jellybelly]

I'm sorry.. I guess I should have specified.

What I meant to say was, that we white, middle class, educated, christian/catholic/atheist girls from the ages of 18-25 who have spent a large portion of their lives and generally share values with those of a great many inhabitants of the western hemisphere generally hate it when guys kiss us on the cheek goodbye, after having slept with them.

Next time I'll be more specific.

[afrosmile]

am sure he would not have done that if he thought more of the whole situation.

I know what it is. If you would read the whole thread you would realize I was talking to misombra and wondering how she thinks it's just a guy looking for sex when he was even scared to kiss her.

i read every single post and understood perfectly what u were saying i was merely letting you know i agree with misombra that the guy was only after sex and just acting shy.

[misombra]

Misombra - doing anything for sex? The ****ing guy was scared to even kiss her? God your so stupid. Go be a sexist.

i didn't say he had to know how to do it. and like i said i don't discriminate. i think all people do weird and unpredictable shit. what is up your ass today?
are you premenstraul or what?

[mhussain]

weeeeeeeeelllllllllll jelly belly
i think he was in it for the sex but later realised that he wasnt and that he liked u and that scared him. also u have to unnderstand that playing hard just isnt right. why be someone u r not. also it is better to talk rather than text coz then u can hear his voice and believe me, no matter how hard a guy tries, a tremor here and a tremor there will always give him away.

Hussain

[Junket]

I'm sorry.. I guess I should have specified.

What I meant to say was, that we white, middle class, educated, christian/catholic/atheist girls from the ages of 18-25 who have spent a large portion of their lives and generally share values with those of a great many inhabitants of the western hemisphere generally hate it when guys kiss us on the cheek goodbye, after having slept with them.

Next time I'll be more specific.

I sense sarcasm. Correct me if I'm wrong, without the use of sarcasm.

I was pointing out the irony that in being confused about the opposite sex you in the same post made a generalization of women, which in turn could give men a false view on women.

[Jellybelly]

thanks mhussain, that's a comforting thought

I'm sorry about the sarcasm Frasbee. What I was trying to convey was that if everyone was so ridiculously impressionable as you implied, everything anyone said on the internet would have to be as exact as my explanation was. Plus, we'd all need our lawyers consent before posting a message, just to make sure noone could sue us. Sorry

[Junket]

if everyone was so ridiculously impressionable as you implied

The sad thing is, especially in these forums, when 12 and 14 year olds wander in asking for advice, they're very impressionable because they're very inexperienced. Hell even 30 year olds come in here askin' things like "when is a good time to kiss her?"

[Jellybelly]

Allright, I get your point. Maybe someone should start a thread about what girls like and don't like guys to do. That way guys could get many different perspectives into the female brain and how we think. Better yet, we need a thread about the guy's points of view - I still need some help in that area.

[Junket]

Allright, I get your point. Maybe someone should start a thread

Feel free.

[Nairou]

Situations like this are what really get me pissed at society. Here we have a nice girl who opens up to a guy she likes (not something you see everyday), and she gets taken advantage of by the idiot, and thinks she has to resort to playing games like everyone else. That's just sad. What mhussain said is right, just be yourself and you'll eventually find someone who can handle it. All the twisted games people end up playing as a result of getting burned... its just sad... and makes a complicated situation even more complicated for those of us who hate playing the games as well.

[schueys_girl]

Hey i was going to comment on the hate the kissing on the cheek thing, because i dont think every girl hates that i think it depends on the situation, but you elaborated and explained yourself, so thats fair enough. I have to say tho i love it when my boyfriend kisses me on the cheek or forehead as i find it very intimate, as a change from on the lips or down the throat lol i guess were all different

As for the bloke, he just didnt knw what he wanted, maybe he just wanted sex, maybe he got freaked out cos u said you liked him, maybe hes incredibly shy, maybe hes just an *******, maybe he just realised he didnt like you, maybe his ex wife came back to him lol you will just never know, so forget him and move on, you know u can do better
much love xxxx