So basically I had been seeing a girl for about 6-7 months, as per usual it started of being as special as I can remember the relationship to be. We then hit a bit of hurdle when after about 2-3 months I kept dodging meetin g her parents etc. In which she confronted me about and I told her I wasn’t ready for that yet. We then continued on seeing each other and we both kind of dodged that aspect and I found myself not making her my number 1 priority as I should have instead choosing to see other mates ahead of her. I was rather confused on wether I wanted to fully commit so I let it keep going in this matter. We then had another talk in which she ended with me due to many things. The fact she didn’t feel that I was making her feel special, etc. For the last 2-3 months we had no sexual relations as I thought at the time it wasn’t right to have sex with someone if you weren’t fully committed. These were her main reasons for ending it with me. However she was clear that we could still be friends. She had uni exams so let her get through them before I continued to pursue her by begging and pleading for another chance via texts, facebook etc her response was that she wanted all these things from the start and it was too late. Safe to say this didn’t work and resulted in me confronting her in person telling her basically the same things. She then told me the relationship was over for her 2 months ago and she had no feelings for me anymore and if we were to start seeing each other it wouldn’t work because of this? On that night however she told me without me even asking that in her words “she had not moved on with anyone else”. I asked her as well if I were to move on with someone else how she would feel. Her answer was then “ honestly I’m not sure”. She also said that she was a different person from when we first met. Bare in mind I know she was madly keen on me and had cried over me, (told me so when it first ended) and I could tell bu her body language etc. I sent her a drunk text a couple of weeks backs basically just asking to be friends at least. She replied saying that she appreciated what I was trying to say but begging her to be friends with didn’t make her want to be friends with her and that I should let her decide to contact me and that she didn’t want a repeat of last time. I haven’t contacted her since. I just need opinions on wether I can actually get her back or friends is the best thing I can hope for? I am going to respect her wishes and wait for her to contact me., her birthday is next month. Is it ok to text her wishing a happy birthday? What are my next steps after that?
To me it seems like she is trying to repress her feelings because I didn’t reciprocate initially and shes wary of being hurt again. I’m thinking of the no-contact method and then just gradually build up up to being able to catch up over a coffee , etc then just show her who I was at the start of the relationship. I think if I can remind her of that she may open up to me.