Did i do the right thing on giving up?

[metalmouth1716]

I'll tell you guys what happened first...

My boyfriend's ex was over at his house to hang out with his parents and they dated for like 2 or 3 years and she cheated on him. When she left me,his family, and their friends were all drinking by the campfire and me and him were talking and i asked if he was over her and he said kinda and i don't remember what else i asked cause i was drunk. But, he did say he was thinking while we were dating that he was not ready to date yet. After he told me that i suggested maybe we shouldn't date or talk so that you can have time to think and we broke up. His parents and his brother are sooo mad about this because they love me and they think he's making a mistake. The next morning he texted me to make sure i was okk and to apologize and he still felt the same way. right now we decided to be friends while he has time to think about what he wants.

Oh yeahh we talked for a month and dated for 3 weeks and we were close sad

I'm just scared that while this happens he won't want to hang out or talk to me and its gonna take him forever to think that he just might move on and forget about me :'( Like he use to tell me i made him happy and i just don't understand.


A friend of mine also talked to him and he told her that he wasn't ready for a girlfriend yet but he will talk to me about it just not right now.

I talked to him 5 days ago and he told me he's been trying to think and i told him well i'm always here for you and i just want you to be happy. He told me he wants me to be happy too and i said its kinda hard for me right now but i'm trying to and he said its hard for him too. Like at the time he said he wanted to ask me out and he thought he was ready but he found out he wasn't. Basically he still likes me he's just not ready to date me yet. His ex told me that i should give him time to think stuff over. I also asked her what does she most likely think will happen and she said most likey he'll get back together with me.

His ex talked to him for me this is their conversation: Well i asked him if the reason he ended with you was because of me being there the other night. He said yes and no so i told him to explain. he said it was because of me and that also because he wanted to be single. I asked what did i do to make you break up with her and he saidd it just brought back good memories of me and him. Then i asked him are you not over me yet and still have feeling for me and he said yeahh i do a lil bit.Than i asked why because i hurt him real bad because i cheated on him. he said i know and idk why.

I talked to ex after that and she said what is best to do is be friends with him and be there for him and just wait patiently like give it a little bit longer. I told i don't know how i can do this though because he needs his space and i don't know if he'll want to hang out again. She said trust me he'll wanna hang out. he always came down my house when we brokeup adan started talking again. Even when he had another gf he was down at my house. I told her every relationship is different and it might not happen that way. She said it wil with nick trust me i was wit him for two years i know how he thinks

But now i feel ike i should or have to move on. i feel on the verge of just being fed up with this whole thing. But i feel like i should wait a little longer but idk. My friend asked when did we break up and i said a week ago and she said ohh yeahh just give him more time. Last time i talked to him was 5 days ago.

I'm not sure if he's gonna even say anything because he is one of those shy people that doesn't talk about his feelings but he will when he's drunk or texting. But he's probably gonna be too shy to text me.

My friend told me that when i'm completely fed up i should say this: this is so ridiculous you know what i beleive we had something and i felt a connection with you...even though you hurt me i stayed your friend and i've been trying to be here for you but you haven't talked to me. if you dont see that and you dont want to move on in life and be happy then thats ur choice, because im not gonna sit here and wait on someone thats giving me a less then 50 50% chance!

For crying out loud he's ex is engaged! i knoww its hard to get over something but its been a year and i'm tired of waiting but i feel like i should wait a little longer. Like no matter what he picks i want him to be happy but its driving me crazy because he hasn't talked to me.

So i actually got completely fed up with it last night and i texted him and this is our conversation:

Me: this is so ridiculous you know what i beleive we had something and i felt a connection with you at your grandma's and i knoww you felt it too...even though you hurt me i stayed your friend and i've been trying to be here for you but you haven't talked to me. if you dont see that and you dont want to move on in life and be happy then thats ur choice, because im not gonna sit here and wait on someone thats giving me a less then 50 50% chance!

Him:i'm trying to move on the best way i can

Me:i knoww but this is causing me so much pain just stringing me along

Him: i didn't mean to

Me:you didn't mean to? you really should have thought of this before we started dating or talking this whole thing wasted my time cause ur not over someone who is engaged and she told me what you said and its hurting me nick you led me on and played with my heart

Him: i'm sorry

Me:i'm not trying to hurt you but your hurting me and all you can say is sorry i deserve better from someone who knows what he wants and like i said i'll always be here for you

Him:i know and thats all i can think of

Me: I just said okk and left it at that

later on i said : i just want to say if you do ever get over it you can text or call me if i'm still available and we can meet and catch up but now i just wish you the best

Him: yeahh you too

Today i went to his house to give him his pj pants back and he wasn't home so that made it easier

[Horseyguy]

Yes you did, just based on the fact he wears PJ's to bed

[Wakeup]

I'm picturing him walking around with just the top seeing she had his bottoms.

[simmo]

i just want to say if you do ever get over it you can text or call me if i'm still available and we can meet and catch up but now i just wish you the best

you haven't given up because you sent this. You're still hoping, and waiting. Be honest with yourself. If you're giving up commence telling him to not contact you again.