He wants me to meet his parents

[flannalan]

After only 5 dates!

I am really not sure what to do, don't know whether I feel comfortable meeting them so soon. We are not young in terms of dating (i'm 27 he is 30). Don't get me wrong, they sound like great people from some of the stories he has told me, but I think it just is a little bit soon.
He wants me to meet them tomorrow, so not much time to decide as he only asked me half an hour ago!

[Vanessa]

So why don't you tell him you feel like it's too soon?

[Yet another guy]

don't know whether I feel comfortable meeting them so soon

Tell that to him.

[HeartIsAching]

After 5 dates? Yeah... too soon. Tell him you're not comfortable with it yet.

[Cerby]

After only 5 dates!

I am really not sure what to do, don't know whether I feel comfortable meeting them so soon. We are not young in terms of dating (i'm 27 he is 30). Don't get me wrong, they sound like great people from some of the stories he has told me, but I think it just is a little bit soon.
He wants me to meet them tomorrow, so not much time to decide as he only asked me half an hour ago!

Quit being such a girl and just communicate how you feel!

[flannalan]

It was through a text conversation and he just sprung it on me, the conversation went a bit like this...

him " what would you like to do tomorrow night?"
me "i thought we agreed you would choose, surpise me"
him "got 21 hours to plan..maybe something crazy lke meet the parents lol"
me "lol, just see it as a test, no pressure "
him "would you like to meet them then?"
me "oh, tomorrow??...would you like me to meet them?"
him "i would like that very much to be honest but just say if you are not ready"
me "hey, no, I really don't mind"

So you see, I got myself into this situation and now I cant really get out of it!

[Saya]

You can still get out of it even thought you've said to him "Hey, no, I really don't mind"
Just tell him the truth and be honest with him and that, you feel that it is too soon to meeting his parents.
If you think it is too weird to tell him that now then, just go and meet his parents.

[Cerby]

"oh, tomorrow??...would you like me to meet them?"
him "i would like that very much to be honest but just say if you are not ready"
me "hey, no, I really don't mind"

So you see, I got myself into this situation and now I cant really get out of it!

haha, I think you should work on you communication skills. Instead of telling your bf what you think he wants to hear, start matching your voice to your thoughts and tell him what you ACTUALLY want.

In this case, if you don't want to meet them, you'll just have to tell him you re-thought it and feel its simply too early. Next time say what you mean and you won't have to do it. The guy gave you outs and you STILL didn't take them. Silly girl.

[flannalan]

Thankyou for the advice. I called him today and explained that it's not that I don't want to meet them but that I think it is a bit too soon. He then started laughing and told me that he had in fact been joking and that he thinks it's too soon, he just enjoyed watching me squirm, and then told me that if I don't want to do something to just tell him.

[devonbrown]

I agree that it might be too soon. And also that you need to work on your communication skills.

But I know lots of people who are VERY close to their family and meeting their parents is not the "big step" that it is for some people.

Glad he was joking and everything is cool though.

[vashti]

I never realized people actually *worried* about these things... I don't see what the big deal would have been, one way or the other.

[Wakeup]

I'd never meet anyone's parents before I discovered if he were sane or not.