Got abit of a problem here!

[confused.com86]

Hi all, n00bie here.

Right well where do i start off - im a male aged 25 ive had a very complex, confused isolated type of life and well i wont go into all that right now, problem is that just over a week ago i met a very nice women on a dating website and i started off by saying your really nice looking if you fanct a chat then get in touch, if its not your thing then im cool with that
she msg's me saying no but take my number anyway and we can have a chat, we text'd eachother for the night then she calls me out the blue, we hit it off pretty well then meet the next day ( her idea ) she picked me up, we went out had coffee and talked all night which was pretty amazing.
Since then i started to open upto her, i mean REALLY open up to her which is somthing ive never ever done - not even with a doctor and she made me trust myself and helped me out in so many ways and i totaly love her for that and ive even said that to her, anway we started seeing eachother a little more, i stopped over and met her daughter and she seemed fine with me - now the problem is, she's told me that she loves me as in loves me loves me and i just kept saying yea i love you too but i meant it in a way like i love you for who you are, your so caring and understanding inside out but i dont love you but could never really get round to telling her until tonight - shes 40yrs of age, looks good ect ect very independant and so on, she takes me out, cooks me dinner tells me her house is my house and she would love me to move in despite its only been nearly 2 weeks - but tonight she came over to see me and she asked me how i feel, i told her how i felt then she got up crying and left and god do i feel like a right bar-sted for it, i never ever had any intention of using her in any way what so ever - i mean come on i opend upto to her so much but just didnt feel the same way, we slept just the once but after that i didnt want to sleep with her again because it didnt feel right - anyway what's done is done but i dunno what to do with myself now
I feel as if i should never ever see anyone again and just die a single man cos im just not cut up for this kind of stuff, i get tooo damn emotional and well what can i say..

I feel so bad for hurting her feelings but i had to be true to her and of course myself because i care for her and would rather have said it 2 weeks later than get with her and say it 6 months down the line......i had a good relationship with her younger daughter she warmed to me and now im just gonna leave it at that which i dont want to do but jeezzz i dunno......
What the heck is wrong with me head.

[BrokenMoon]

You've been seeing each other for 2 weeks, it's still early days, maybe you just need more time?

Does she tick all of your boxes?

[Riku]

It's only been two weeks? Ok, there are so many things wrong with this there is no point in addressing any of it but to say, she has severe issues, I'm sure you have a few from some things in your post but good lord...she needs help.

[confused.com86]

shes ticks the boxes ie: good personality, good looks and so on but i just dont love her - shes 40 and i just dont think i could keep up with that sort of thing, its just gone all wrong cos i really care for her as her previous 2 bf's wear around my age too and they both hurt her and i promised to never let anyone hurt her but of course now she tells me she loves me....i just hate to think that ive broken her heart..

[devonbrown]

People who tend to get really serious really quickly have a fear of being alone and want a relationship at almost all costs. Just keep that in mind for the future.

I understand you not wanting to hurt her, but breakups hurt. That is just a fact. There is no way to really ease that pain either. Honesty is the only thing to go with here.

Good luck.

[julinneray]

There are so many problems with this. First of all the age difference is so big and it might not seem as an issue but you and her are at different points in your life. she is looking for a life partner and may be you just want to sate and see where it goes. secondly, she fell in love with you aAFTER 2 WEEKS?? this doesn't sound right. I mean breaking up the relationship sounds like an offal thing to do but also it is the right thing to do because it will save her alot of heart ache later on and also you really don't want to waste someone's time if you two are looking for completely different things in a relationship.