Would You?

[mhussain]

hey guys

if ur girlfriend loves two men at the same time, and i mean it that she is in love with two men. she fell in love with u because her earlier relationship developed some problems but she still loves him and she has told you about him. if she came to you one day crying and said that she had willingly slept with her previous bf a day b4and she is pleading with you to not leave her, what would you do?

again remember that you love her very much.

please give me an answer only after putting urself in this position.

Hussain

[acidrein_08]

Well first let's look at the positive :
1.) She herself came and told you about what she had done.
2.) She apoligized and has told you the truth about her ex.
3.) You love her.
That's about it..
Now let's look at the negative :
1.) A kiss would be cheating but to go as far as sleeping with them?
2.) She did it once what makes you think she wouldn't again?
3.) Why would you want to be with someone who loves two people?
4.) You wouldn't be able to trust her.
5.) If you took her back it would show her that it was alright.
6.) The relationship would never grow becuase you would never be able to forget about what happened.
Why would you want to be with someone who can easily sleep with her ex? I wouldn't take her back, but if you want to be stupid then you can and she will just do it again. If you want to stoop to her level then hit that and then leave her. If you want to get a real girlfriend who would care about you then look elsewhere. Good luck.

[cycletease]

I would leave.

I know the situation is complicated, but loving someone is not enough to make a relationship work...as your girl has shown. Although her turmoil is real and her regret may be real, it doesn't change the fact that she isn't able to commit to you her entire heart.

No person deserves to fall second someplace, or maybe as a tie. Your girl made this "mistake" because she has unresolved feelings. You would be doing her a favor to allow her to resolve her feelings and yourself a favor by leaving her.

If you decide to "work things out" and stay together I can tell you with absolute certainty that things will not "work out". So you can stay with her and break up later or break up right now.

I am sorry about your situation. I know it is rough and a hard call for you. Let us know how it goes.

[lucan_reilly]

Don't "leave" her. She is very emotional right now. However your relationship as boyfriend/girlfriend should cease until she figures out what she wants, because if you continue down this road, it will lead to heartache for you. Be her friend, help her through these troubling times, but resist the temptation to be her knight in shining armor. She needs to figure out what she wants.

[mhussain]

her other boyfriend and she according to her have broken up and she told me that now she has nothing to do with him, at which i lashed out " ofcourse now u dont want anything" . it was at this point that she began to cry.

the fact is that i really really love her and i have ;no idea what i should do. i simply cant forget what she did and whenever i think of breaking up with her, my heart refuses simply because of how much i love her.

now that she has gone back home simply kills me as she is not able to make contact.

i know what u r trying to say guys and i know that u r right , but ..........................

Help guys

hussain

[bohemiandonut]

Hmmm, I think you all are being a little too cynical.

Though she sounds like trouble, I completely agree with the positive points of acidrein's first post.

"1.) She herself came and told you about what she had done.
2.) She apoligized and has told you the truth about her ex.
3.) You love her."

Also, it sounds like she loves you. Notice how the positive things are all concrete and the negative are simply doubts and skepticism? There will be that doubt in any relationship, especially one with a dreaded "ex" character. I think you know more about the character of this particular girl than any of us, who may be imposing our previous partners onto her.

I leave it up to you. It means something that she told you everything, that she was crying, that she broke up with him. There are no guarantees, but I think this forum sometimes forget that no relationship is perfect, and some do last.

[lucan_reilly]

I don't think I could stay with a girl that cheated on me...


How old are you anyway.

[mhussain]

i am 20 mate

hussain

[bohemiandonut]

Hussy, why does it seem like you have 4 different romantic situations going on at the same time? Maybe just one extremely complex one? Oh well, for my opinion, see previous post.

[mhussain]

hey mate,
its just one extremely complex one and it is freaking me out.

but u know what, i think i am getting over her bit by bit.

think so. hope so

Hussain