Hi I"m a 26 year old straight male. In recent years, I have had a chronic medical condition. I also just finished my second degree and pursuing another. I am not trying to gloat but I wanted to point out that I am career oriented.
Needless to say I never found time to pursue women because of school/work/health. It was never a priority for me. In the past year, my illness got worse and my doctors informed cancer was coming with serious outcomes. I had to get surgery which left me an ileostomy. It's an external pouch like a colostomy but slightly different.
I am quite grateful for the "bag" because it's given me better health and frankly I'm still alive. Nevertheless, I want to know how this affects my personal/dating life.
I keep getting cliches from my female friends "it doesn't matter; love is only necessary" ."You are beautiful on the inside"
While I appreciate the support, it is absurd to believe it plays NO role. Consider someone in a wheelchair. I am certain they have to make lifestyle adjustments.
I posted this on forums with men and get some honest answers. I am more intrigued to know what women think. Since you don't know me, then I am certain I can get some good honest feedback.
Would you date someone with an ileostomy ? Is this "gross" ? How important is this for you?
thanks