Don't know what to do.

[Noodleman]

Hi. I broke up with my ex about 8 months ago. We were together for more than a year. We were very much in love. But she became very stressed with her upcoming exams that she didn't really have time for me. I should have the done the right thing and gave her her space. But instead I got mad and said many hurtful things. This went on for weeks. I don't know why I I was so upset, maybe because we used to talk all the time and that went down to a very short conversation each day. And her being to tired to even laugh about things we used to joke about. After a while she said she has had enough, we decided to take a break to let her concentrate on her studies. But a month later we broke up. I was very upset. We didn't talk for a while. I tried to get her back but she kindly said she wanted to finish her exams and see how she s feeling. A few weeks later i spoke to her again. I asked her whether she still had feelings for me but she said No. A few months after that I tried to get her back again, it was going well, I felt like she was giving me the signals. But I was wrong. 3 and a half months since then I bumped into her while with a friend. We talked for a little bit. Since then she has been slowly reaching out to me. Asking me if I want to hang out and invited me over for dinner. I m glad she us reaching out to me, even though I know it's only because she wants to be friends. After my second attempt to get her back I have been doing great! Moving on with my life, thinking of her less , sounding time with my friends and family and seeing other girls. But it all changed when I saw her again. It was the first time since we broke up. The first time was no so bad. But it got worst we bumped into each other again 3 days later. Since then I ve realized how much I m still in love with her and now I really miss her. I have dated other girls before but I have never felt like this about anyone. Deep down inside I knew I was never over her. And now she s all I can think about. I want her back but I know that can never happen. Help?

[smackie9]

She notices you because you have renewed yourself....you are happier, more social, focused, independent, she is seeng you in a different light. You are not the jealous freak O you were months ago. Go ahead and hang out with her, maybe you can find the right moment to ask her if she would like to try again.


You should never doubt yourself......

[Noodleman]

I don't know. She's moved on , I have too, well with other aspects of my life but when it comes to her I feel like I am right where I was right after we broke up. When it comes to her I tend to be very sensitive. I am scared to talk to her about possibly getting back together because Im scared the hurt and feelibgvof rejection.

[smackie9]

You cant change the things in your life if you don't take risks.....

[Noodleman]

We've actually spoken only once in the last week. But why did she not want to get back together the first time I tried?

[smackie9]

You make yourself more desireable by being untouchable....maybe that is why she reaches out because of your absence. Sometimes people need to easy back into a relationship, rather than be called out on it and put on the spot.