Will someone help me

[leshaun300]

i been with my boyfriend for 8 years
and for the last month and a half
things took a turn for the worst.he is
mentally and emotionally going
through somethings that are
causing major tension.i am confused
and hurt because i feel as though he
is giving up and letting me down.for
the last week we've been fussing
about him getting help and he says
to me he don't want to get help he
just want to fix it on his own and he
wants to take a break from me for a
week so he can figure things out.i
didn't take that too well so i freaked
out and took it as if i did something
wrong.so i guess he got upset that i
didn't accept what he was saying so
he proceeded to tell me he wanted to
break up(that really hurt at the point
i felt like my heart was being ripped
right out of my chest). he proceeded
to tell me that he loved and don't
want to break up but he feel as
though i wont let him have that time.
he thought he would just take that
time from me by breaking up with
me. he also said that he didn't want
me to suffer while he's going
through this because right now he
cant mentally and emotionally give
me the love and affection he wants
to give me.so he told me to just let
him have the week to clear his mind
so he could get better and i agreed.
but now i feel like he doesn't love me
and i feel like since he said he
wanted to break up even though he
didn't really mean its stuck in my
head and now i feel that's what he
wants. so i ask what should i do? i
am 100% afraid of what might
happen if he doesn't get better . he"s
my best friend i truly love him with
all my heart. what would you do if
this was your girlfriend or
boyfriend? am i just crazy and need
to sit back and let him get it together
or should i break up? i honestly
don't know what to do please give
me some real and honest
advice.please.

[devonbrown]

He "broke up" with you because you pushed him to it. If you care about him, give him the time he needs.

However, if he has problems that he can not handle on his own, then he should see someone. Perhaps you even suggest that you could go with him. Let him know that you care about him and just want to help.

And try not to take everything he says personally. Especially if you know he is going through stuff right now. Be a little more empathetic towards him. Try to put yourself in his shoes. Not what you would do, but how you think he is feeling, etc.

Good luck.

[jb1111983]

I agree with Devon. Also he sounds like an introvert, is he? I am (although I can talk a lot as well) and I know when things don't go right, I like to be away from the world (that includes everyone) just to clear my head. And when that's done I'm back to being the normal me. If he's an introvert like me, I'm not suprised he wants to be away from everyone as he needs to spend time with himself. The best you could do in this situation is to let him know you are there for him if he needs you for anything. He will know you care. Don't bother him too much while he has his time to think. You'll only annoy him further. I hope things get back to 'normal' again after a week he'll have to himself.