what now

[emily25]

Hi guys

I ve had three dates with this guys and its gone very well. All the sudden, hes not contacting me. We ve been texting to each other a lot before. I tried to contact him but no reply. Does it mean hes not interested and its over?

[maxmax]

All of a sudden? What does this mean in number of days?

[emily25]

after our 3rd date, its been just over a week. no contact. (( did i do something wrong?

[Cerby]

How long since you last talked to him?

[emily25]

the last time we spoke was on our 3rd date. is it because he doesnt like me and want to lead me on? or hes got what he wants and no longer interested?

[emily25]

at the end of the 3rd date, we hugged and kissed goodbye. i then txted him saying i had a good time. he replied saying he did too. then after that no contact. This is now about 10 days later!

[Cerby]

10 days? Oh, its over. Thats outside then acceptable "I was busy" window. He would have found a way to get in touch with you by now.

[maxmax]

That is not a good sign.

Unless he has been hospitalised, lost his phone, or disappeared mysteriously, he is highly likely not interested anymore. The other scenarios are possibilities, but unlikely.

Unfortunately there are a lot of people who don't have the guts to be honest with you and just tell you straight.

Instead, they keep you waiting and mess you about.

If I were you, I would simply assume he isn't interested and move on.

[maxmax]

Anyhow, anyone keeping you waiting for this long isn't worth your time.

[emily25]

i dont understand. As i thought the dates went really well and he asked me on all 3 dates. maybe you guys are right, its over.

[emily25]

do you think i should call him up and ask him straight up?

[maxmax]

i dont understand. As i thought the dates went really well and he asked me on all 3 dates. maybe you guys are right, its over.

Maybe he was keeping his options open.

Maybe he was keeping you keen whilst working on some other girls at the same time.

Perhaps he is now dedicating his time to them and doesn't have time for you.

Who knows, but it's likely. Ten days is far too long for an average excuse.

[maxmax]

do you think i should call him up and ask him straight up?

Personally, no.

If he had any interest or respect for you, he would have contacted you by now.

[thetrickster]

Hi Emily

If you liked him but were willing to accept it may not be right for him, then call. The worst is you'll confirm what you already suspect. The best is you find he couldn't contact you for an acceptable but crazy reason reason and you have a story to tell your grandchildren!!

Also, I think tackling issues directly makes you a little stronger inside.

[emily25]

thanks guys

I ve contacted him because its annoying me.

not the best I want to hear, hes basically saying theres no future with us so we should stop speaking or seeing each other.

now i just feel completely and totally used... seems like he got what he wanted and now i ve been ditched. (((((((