Should I tell?

[Rollingwithlife]

I just came back here to find responses to what I said, but it appears Wakeup and Incog have beaten me to my response. It's all about staying open-minded about the details and the action itself. Just because something is seemingly negative on the outside, does not condemn it to being so 100% of the time leaving behind a permanent stain. I think that's the problem with so many people out in the world, is that they just hear about the crust of a situation and they've already signed a contract with their heavily biased position, never looking back no matter what the core of the situation may be about.

[IndiReloaded]

The first thing he will want to know is "WHY???". That would be important to me... Just be aware that you will get that question.

Of course the why makes a difference. I wouldn't do sex for pay given a choice, but I'd do it if the alternative was something extreme, say, my kid starving.

[bulrush]

Personally, I am very open-minded. I look at how compatible I am with my gf, not at her past. The only thing she needs to tell me is if she has a disease. Then *I* make the choice of whether to be intimate with her. I also want to know about her emotional baggage which might interfere with the relationship. Most baggage does interfere at some point.

Everyone has their values. I don't judge a person's past, because people can change over time. But I look at how they are in the present. I personally have change a lot in the past 20 years, for the better.

[Mike588]

Depending on the guy. Some guys will freak while others may accept it. Feel out the guy first.

[upandaway]

Thanks all. I wish life was more black and white Lol. I guess the future will tell me how good I am at reading people.