Please Help.

[ConfusedMother]

Hiya everyone, never used one of these before so please bare with me, i'm looking for some advise regarding myself and my partners relationship. I'll start of by telling you a bit about our relationship. We got together 5 years ago and we are engaged with one child and another on the way, our relationship hasn't been easy we have had our ups and downs but we have pulled through until now really.
A while back i went onto my partners phone with his permission to look something up on the internet ( quicker than turning on the laptop ) and the first thing to pop up on the screen was pictures of other girls he had been looking at, now i know people will look, everyone does but he knows that i am very self contiguous about the way i look as are many woman but when he's looking at them all the time it gets a bit worrying and he knows these other woman. Anyway out of interest before asking him about it, i looked at his history on his computer and guess what he has been checking them out on that too.. with me in the same room!
So of course i done what i would believe anyone would do, i asked him about it to which he denied and said that his computer and phone where lying. I mean please what kind of excuse was that! So he waked out, had a walk and came home, so i asked him again, this time he said i look at men too (his friends) and i was like well that's not what your phone and computer say..
Anyways his excuse was he doesn't look at them in a sexual way so i asked why they were all thin, why not bigger woman? to which he didn't reply. I left it at that because i am pregnant and don't really need the stress at the moment. Since then i have noticed he covers his phone when reading texts and if i'm sitting beside him won't read them so of course i do when he's not about, I feel i have the right as the phone and his contract is in my name so technically it is my phone, although there was nothing regarding woman i have noticed hes been deleting his messages and that? I know hes still emailing other woman but i'm fed up of fighting and i really don't know what to do anymore?.

Please can you give me advise on what to do? Do i stay.. Do i leave.. Am i over reacting?

[searock]

He is lying to you. Leave.

[ConfusedMother]

See the thing is we have a child, a beautiful little boy who adores him and another on the way.. inside i want to leave him but i love him so much he said he will fight for me until his last breath and i want him to but if i leave he will move on and i will be alone

[searock]

If you can stand to spend the rest of your life with a man who is capable of - and will not refrain from - lying to you, go ahead and stay with him. At least talk to him and let him see that you are really not going to tolerate any more lies (even if you actually would).

BTW, even if you break up with him, you and your children could still see him, I mean it's not like he disappears or something.

[Way2Roux]

I agree w/Searock. It's harder if you have a child together, but I think it's actually healthier for the child to split up now instead of later.

[ConfusedMother]

Well we broke up for a couple of months a few years ago where he actually did just disappear, he had no contact with his son and that was the hardest thing i have had to do as i allowed my son to go through hell, crying for his Daddy knowing that he at the time didn't care?

[Way2Roux]

Well, it sounds like the father really doesn't care. I think you need to reduce his status to sperm donor and be gone with him

[devonbrown]

If he disappeared on his son when you two broke up before, then you really need to rethink his position in your and your children's lives.

He is definitely acting sketchy. He may not be physically cheating, but it seems that he is trying to find attention outside of the relationship, and that is not a good thing.

By the way, just because the phone contract is in your name does not give you a right to snoop. You found something and now you have doubts about trusting him. Now deal with that. But don't go sneaking around checking up on him. If you trust him that little, then you need to be done with him.