I suppose to start, I should give a bit of a back story. He's one of my best friends fiance's groomsmen, and I'm the maid of honor. We met a few months ago and I immediately felt comfortable around him, but nothing really happened until three weeks ago. He took my number and we've gone on four dates. He seemed to be very into me, when suddenly he stopped texting me. Normally I'd just take this as he's not interested and that's that, but he keeps interacting with me on facebook. I personally don't see this as a substitute for calling and/or texting, but I'm not sure of what a guys perspective would be. We have about a hour distance between us and last time I saw him he said we would "have to talk about it but not now", which that immediately rose red flags for me.
I'm just terribly confused. Is he interested or isn't he? And if he is, why isn't he calling me? I do like this guy quite a bit and would like to pursue a relationship with him, but I don't want to waste my time if he isn't. I haven't called him and only reply to him on facebook if need be (i.e. he asks me a direct question or a mutual friend is involved in the conversation). Any advice would be appreciated.
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01-09-11, 12:38 PM #1
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Does he or doesn't he?
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Why don't you initiate conversation? Maybe he's waiting for you to show interest.
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A little while ago I happened to be near where he lives and asked to see him, but he was working and I didn't get a reply until the next day anyway. That was shortly before he started to pull away. I took that as I wasn't giving him enough of a "chase", which is why I haven't initiated anything.
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Ask him out. Try to make some plans with him. If he dodges it, then you know he's not into it at the moment and you can stop thinking about him.
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01-09-11, 02:36 PM #5
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I personally don't see texting as a substitute for chatting online.
Originally Posted by melliebellie
I think you guys should make plans to see each other some day. Otherwise it doesn't really matter whether he does or doesn't.You can't buy love, but you pay heavily for it.
