An Anectode for the Future

[adonis_boy]

Me and my girlfriend are both 22 and we are in a pretty young relationship.

We were having a random conversation about marriages and I asked her if she has any qualities she looks for before she decides to marry a guy. She told me she feels she is young to think about these and has never thought about it before. Then she admits that I'm the first one to make her think about that, not even her girl friends asked her these questions. After a while, she said that maybe she wouldn't be very comfortable with marrying a guy who has a deadly disease but she really doesn't know what she would do. Her father-in-law and grandparents all suffer from a cancer and she can't handle the loss of another person she loves. Then I ask her if she would leave the guy if he turns out to have one of these diseases and she replies "Of course not. I would help him heal."

I'm not really planning to marry her or anyone yet but her view about these made me think twice. Is this a red flag for a future long term relationship with this girl or is it more likely a sudden thought that could change with time depending on the guy she loves and the conditions? I was just wondering and would like to hear what you'll say.

[vashti]

.......????

Exactly which part would make you see red flags?

[6wordsentence]

hi adonis,

If you are having a deadly disease, guess what, you won't be able to hide it for long. So if you plan on marrying this girl I suggest you go ahead and tell her the truth. I think REAL love must always be challenged, and if it's still alive after those challenges, you can be sure it's for real.

I know it's not what you want to hear, but it's the truth. She'll find out anyways and will hate you for trying to lie about it.

If you're not having a deadly disease, than I don't see any red flags.

I hope this post was helpful,

The 6 word sentence