I have had some "relationships" with dancers before, and they all just went off into dead ends or exploded. I do fall into that category that I don't care what happens in the club, if shes got me in her heart at the end of the night Its all good. Then things happened in my life and I stopped going to Strip Clubs altogether. For almost 10 or so years, but recently got a settlement from a car wreck and decided to celebrate. first dancer I talked to we ended up sitting together. We talked and talked, back and forth for hours and I got a few lap dances ( I did go to celebrate lol). I gave her my number (told her I would be more surprised if she did call than if she didn't.) She did call, but she is playing it very cool (which makes sense) She is a student and dancing to put herself through school. She doesn't go out with customers, she doesn't date customers, she doesn't even call customers. Of course this is all her word (and I have been selectively niaeve *sic in the past so it is hard to rely on that.) But it has gotten to the point that she says she loves me, and we talk about life together. We fit. but my past with women, and dancers in particular makes it hard to trust that what she is saying is true. I want to believe, but I don't want to be played a fool. I have told her I don't mind being a good customer, but don't tag me along making me think something can happen just to keep me interested, when it won't. She said she could see that, and we are still "together". So let me describe together. Never outside the club. (fortunately [or unfortunately for her]) it has been quite dead in the club on weeknights so I go up there and sit with her (and yes get a few dances as well). but she doesn't "hook up" with anyone she meets in the club, outside of the club. Even me.
One night I was in a bit of a funk, and she could tell. I was trying to play it cool but she asked what was wrong, so I had to tell her. I am trying to be patient, but I dont know if I can wait a year and a half for that first kiss. (That is when she graduates). She told me that night I "had" her. I was her man. She keeps telling me that she loves me. And I just need to be patient. (She has trust issues; the first night she said she has been in mostly abusive relationships, and the second week I [just for the hell of it] got her a single rose, and she told me that she never got a flower from a man; EVER) I played the romantic thing for our one month anniversary, small box chocolates, flowers card etc. and had to take them to the club. First thing she asked when she saw me was if I knew what the date was. (I had arranged with the doorgirl and waitress to bring the flowers after we were sitting down.) I played it cool. Things went off without a hitch.
So to sum up it has been a month, still no date, still no sex, (oddly enough I don't mind about that.) not even a kiss. (Makes too much sense since she never sees me outside of the club) When I am at the club she sits with me and doesn't sit with other customers, except for dances. (I even found out from the DJ she does the same thing when I am not there as well) She does not ask me for money, dances or drinks. She does call. Not constantly but every other day or so. but she hasn't given me her number yet. Nothing has changed, except my doubts.
I have trust issues, but I think I have good reason for them considering my past and her job. She said "I got her" again tonight. That she would tell me if things weren't working out. I know this business. I am not worried about the customers; it's her job. I am not worried about "other guys;" she's too busy with school (and tutoring). I am worried that if the money were to run out it would all end. Am I still that gullible? Or just being too impatient?