Originally Posted by
Nicam
Any input or suggestions? How can I tell if he likes me as more than a friend? How should I play my cards here?
Ask him. He may not be in the mood for dating if he's real depressed. Sounds like he is a huge risk-taker, he failed, and now he is penniless. Sound like a good recipe for a long-term relationship? Well, you decide.
And if you are not the girl to "make the first move", nor will you talk to him, then you are stuck in the winds of random events, and will never realize your dreams.
Sounds to me like you lack confidence, and I've been there. How about if you make a change, and make the first move on him? Tell him you want to date him, see what he says. Be sure to point out his good qualities to boost him out of his depression. He is probably thinking he is a complete failure with just one failed company. If he doesn't work out, for the next 6 months, approach men you like and simply start up a conversation. Get their name, do small talk, then ask them on a date. If you ask them on a date, the asker pays. Just sayin. Don't be a cheapskate. Real men hate that. Men who want to control you, want to pay for ALL the dates, well, that's just generalizing. But watch out for that.
Last edited by bulrush; 03-09-11 at 12:17 AM.
I have a long time interest in psychology, specializing in relationship dynamics for 30 years.
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