Being on a break

[English Guy]

Hi

Im new on here and my first time on a relationship forum, will try and keep this short. Hoping for some advice / opinions.

Basically, I have been seeing my gf for 2.5 years, we met at work (she no longer works there) and we fell in love. She was just coming out of a relationship and I left my then gf for her.

Over the 2.5 years we have been so so happy BUT I never met her parents, she never met mine, despite her pushing to meet them etc. For some reason i was very nervous and had it in the back of my mind that my Mum wouldnt approve because she had such a close relationship with my ex.

The situation today is that 3 weeks ago my gf said she wanted to have a break, i had been neglecting her, rarely went out with her, just stayed in watching tv. She says she loves me, wants a future with me and kids etc etc. and im dying for that as well.

But she wants a break to clear her head as i hurt her so much (used to make digs about her previous r'ship etc) and so on.

She says the bad thoughts / concerns are gradually going and they are about 70% gone but its KILLING me us being apart, i miss everything and its really kicked me up the backside.

How can i proceed? i know the simple thing is to give her the space etc but im finding it so so so hard, i cant stop texting or ringing and every day is a killer. its affecting everything in my everyday life. eating habits, sleeping, work.

By the way im 28 and she is 25.

Sorry to waffle on, hopefully someone can advise / voice their opinion.

Thanks

[BackUpOrGetStng]

Stop the calling and texting. Go completely silent. If she calls back, tell her that you realize it's over and you don't want her to contact you again, unless she wants to give the relationship another try.

[devonbrown]

OP, you act like there is some unseen force controlling your hands and fingers to dial her number or text her. Stop it. You want to send her a message, write it down on a piece of paper. Get it out of your system. Then shred it. because it does nothing but make her think you don't respect her wishes.

You need to realize that your relationship was in some bad shape and what your role and responsibility in that was. It may be too late for this relationship, but you can at least learn from it for your next one.