I have been seeing this girl for just over a month, neither of us have ever felt anywhere near the feelings we have for each other. We told each other we loved each other 3 days after meeting, and meant it. The problem is, she lives a 5 hour coach ride away, but we still manage to see each other for 3/4 days every week or so.
But she is finding it hard to trust me. Her previous boyfriends have f***ed her over, and one of them physically abused her. i have been understanding and reassured her that i would never hurt her mentally or physically, and that ill protect her. she often goes into a paranoid mood with me over the smallest things, but i have to reassure that im in this for the long run.
But on friday night the phone conversation turned to her asking me if my ex's ever sent me pictures of themselves. One had, i told her she messaged me them on facebook. She then asked if i had deleted them. I never lie to this girl, so i replied "i may have done, i completely forgot about them so im not sure if they are still there." She wanted me to check and eventaully i found them within the depths of my messages. I have nothing to hide. The photos were sent last december and i broke up with that girl in february, and just forgot about the pictures completely.
My girlfriend hangs up. After loads of texts and a few phone conversations( when she would answer) she says that she cant just back down and take it, that she is not going to be hurt again. And that its over. For the next 4 hours going into the early morning there was alot more texts, and 1 phone call which involved 10 minutes of me talking without any reply until she hung up.
I didnt sleep that whole night, and at around 7:00 in the morning i wrote a 4 page letter explaining everything, and posted it at around 10 in the morning. Now she is rarely replying to any text i send her, although i have stopped sending them mostly because sometimes they can just make things worse.
I have a job interview on monday(uk time) otherwise i would go up to her now. But depending on whether i get it and start, i have promised her that i will go up to see her next weekend, maybe sooner. I told her there is nothing she can say that will stop me and that i am fully prepared for her to just shut the door in my face, but that i love her too much and if i didnt try for the relationship, that i would regret not giving this relationship a chance, for the rest of my life.
I would never even think of cheating on her, but she says she cannot trust me at all and calls me a liar. When we are together we are brilliant but away from each other her paranoia reigns supreme. Any advice for what i should say to her would be appreciated, although im pretty sure my heart has got it all figured out already.