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    First date with my Wife since we split up

    My wife and I have been separated for about 8 months now. I have been trying to get her back for about 2 weeks now and she finally agreed to go on a date with me. I have reservations at the nicest restaurant in town and am really going all out, but not telling her anything other than when I will be picking her up and to dress nice. I do not want to talk about what happened in our relationship on what is basically a first date. Any suggestions on good topics as she is very soft spoken and tends to be quiet in situations like this?

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    Do whatever you did on your first dates before you were married, it obviously worked.

    Have you guys decided to work on the relationship, or are you just ignoring the problem and she's just agreeing to go out with you because you've been hounding her for two weeks?
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    lol I have been hounding her for 2 weeks but I know she enjoys it. We have discussed working on it for some time now. We met up today at a little icecream shop, I brought her a rose and I went through a laundry list of my mistakes I made and how much I loved her and how committed I was to working things out. She cried and after talking for a bit she agreed to go on a date with me. We agreed if we were going to give it a real shot that we wouldn't discuss our relationship problems and just try to find what made us fall in love with each other in the first place. I do want to add that she warned me she had been dating a guy for about a month and I would have compition. I am not sure if she was just trying to make jealous or really is so I have to step it up a notch and good really use some good tips on what to say if you can think of any

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pool Shark View Post
    some good tips on what to say if you can think of any
    I don't mean to be an unhelpful jerk, but if you can't think of anything to say to her then that would be kind of a bad sign, right? You married her, you must know her well enough to know what she likes to talk about.

    But, here, generic topics: Movies you've seen lately, interesting news stories, catching up on the past 8 months of your lives, your pets, your kids, your friends, bring up funny inside jokes, talk about happier times, etc.

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    That wasn't unhelpful or being a jerk lol. I'm just really nervous and dont want to screw it up. But, thank you for the tips.

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    I gave my husband this book years ago. It helped, sort of

    [url=http://lds.about.com/od/productreviews/gr/howtodatewife.htm]How to Date Your Wife by Stan Cronin: LDS Book Review[/url]
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    Just an update. The date went REALLY well! We went to dinner and then karaoke afterwards. I sang "aint that a kick in the head" by dean martin, grabbed her out of her chair and danced around with her as i sang. The entire bar went crazy and she blushed the entire time. Then I gave her a present I made her. I took a bouquet from our wedding put it in a box picture frame drew a picture of a couple dancing in the moon (our first dance was moondance by van morrison) and put a picture from our wedding of us in it. She took a long look at it cried and we kissed for about 5 minutes straight. So wish me luck on the next one guys!

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