Need Female thoughts on this.

[Mike588]

Ok ladies got a question for you.

My now ex girlfriend of ten months went back to her ex boyfriend, they were together 14 months, no children involved. Were both in our 40s. She felt truely loved by me, cared for, made her feel special, great sex,, not just on my side, really, could talk to me about anything ,was so sweet to her etc etc.

She had broken up with him TWICE before for the reasons above he did'nt give her . I know I was the rebound guy.

It's been over a month since the breakup with me and I've realized she used me,, I was her "emotional bandaid"

Question: Now thats she back with him and had a taste of truely being loved, cared for , felt special and appreciated will she, would you miss all of that she had with me and did'nt with him and MAY not be getting again??? 3rd time back to him.

Will she now compare him with me??

Just curious,, If she were to come back I'd say no,, to much damage done,, could never trust her again.

Thanks, I'm really curious of other womens thoughts on this.

[Kyrina]

Yes when the first time something goes wrong for her in the relationship with this guy she will compare him to you and see her mistake but sadly she blew her bridges and good for you not having her back you are too far out of her league.
I am often told by ex's that their currant partner isnt me. I find this a horrid thing to say about their now SO and i find myself despising these ex's but yes she will compare time and time again but she will stay with this guy.

[Mike588]

Thanks for responding. I'm curious at the ending you said:: But she will stay with this guy. Why do you feel that way even though I hope she does.

[Wakeup]

Ok ladies got a question for you.

My now ex girlfriend of ten months went back to her ex boyfriend, they were together 14 months, no children involved. Were both in our 40s. She felt truely loved by me, cared for, made her feel special, great sex,, not just on my side, really, could talk to me about anything ,was so sweet to her etc etc.

She had broken up with him TWICE before for the reasons above he did'nt give her . I know I was the rebound guy.

It's been over a month since the breakup with me and I've realized she used me,, I was her "emotional bandaid"

Question: Now thats she back with him and had a taste of truely being loved, cared for , felt special and appreciated will she, would you miss all of that she had with me and did'nt with him and MAY not be getting again??? 3rd time back to him.

Will she now compare him with me??

Just curious,, If she were to come back I'd say no,, to much damage done,, could never trust her again.

Thanks, I'm really curious of other womens thoughts on this.

She's broken, she's of low self worth so she doesn't feel the she deserves someone that doesn't cause her drama. You can't fix her. Women with a good sense of self and those who respect themselves will not go back time and time again to a man that pushes and pulls her. You should be thankful that she is out of your life it would get to be quite the folly trying to make her happy with normalcy.

She needs some help from a professional and she likely won't leave this guy until he gives up on her completely and never calls her again (should they break up again). She's addicted to him and the drama as sure as if he were a drug and without rehab and reflection on how bad he is for her, she will stay with him and get sicker and sicker and her self worth will get beaten down and down as long as he keeps her addicted to the roller coaster ride of emotions that he keeps her on. It's sad really.

If you think about it, it's not even love but rather addiction. People who love one another don't mistreat one another and they certainly don't keep breaking up, using other humans for filler/bandaids and then go back to one another time and time again.

Forget all about her and the "whys" your life is better off without her in it and you've learned a valuable lesson about being someone's rebound. I'm sure you'll suss out how long a girl has been broken up and make sure that she is in zero contact from an ex before giving her your heart in the future.

[Kyrina]

She's broken, she's of low self worth so she doesn't feel the she deserves someone that doesn't cause her drama. You can't fix her. Women with a good sense of self and those who respect themselves will not go back time and time again

This is exactly why thanks wakeup

[Andariel]

She's broken, she's of low self worth so she doesn't feel the she deserves someone that doesn't cause her drama. You can't fix her. Women with a good sense of self and those who respect themselves will not go back time and time again to a man that pushes and pulls her. You should be thankful that she is out of your life it would get to be quite the folly trying to make her happy with normalcy.

She needs some help from a professional and she likely won't leave this guy until he gives up on her completely and never calls her again (should they break up again). She's addicted to him and the drama as sure as if he were a drug and without rehab and reflection on how bad he is for her, she will stay with him and get sicker and sicker and her self worth will get beaten down and down as long as he keeps her addicted to the roller coaster ride of emotions that he keeps her on. It's sad really.

If you think about it, it's not even love but rather addiction. People who love one another don't mistreat one another and they certainly don't keep breaking up, using other humans for filler/bandaids and then go back to one another time and time again.

Forget all about her and the "whys" your life is better off without her in it and you've learned a valuable lesson about being someone's rebound. I'm sure you'll suss out how long a girl has been broken up and make sure that she is in zero contact from an ex before giving her your heart in the future.

Spot on, WakeUp!

[Mike588]

Wow you hit the nail on the head. Did tell me several times that's she attracted to the "wrong" men, In her last email to me after breakup she stated she's not sure shes capable of loving anyone and the attraction to him was like a drug or love,, she said she prefers to call it love and she had to go back cause it was her fault.
Thanks so much. Any addditional info. thoughts would be appreciated.

[Wakeup]

Why do you want to keep talking about her and keeping her in the forefront of your thoughts? Guessing and discussing and wondering is futile. She's damaged goods and she'll hurt any poor guy that happens to hook up with her in-between breakups and getting back together with this guy that she is addicted to.

Do your best to forget about her and stop trying to figure out the whys and what fors of that of an issued chickie who is her own worst enemy. JMO... The quicker you forget about her and view her with indifference the quicker you'll be in the right frame of emotional health to find someone sane

[Kyrina]

Definetly have to agree with Wakeup she really does tell it as it is Mike, her advise h
as often helped me get through my own difficult time.
Good luck to you and moving on it does help.


PS when you flounder and feel yourself thinking about her re read wakeup's advise it helps kick you out of the miserable bit of someone hurting you