I recently found out a guy I had been seeing off and on for three years has a criminal record of rape from 10 years ago. I asked him about it and he said he was not convicted of the crime but was charged but it is on his permanent record. Now I am scared to be around him and uncomfortable with his past. Is it wrong for me to judge him based on something from 10 years and was not convicted of the crime? However, he spent 9 months in prison for violating probation and not showing up for court date. I can not lower my standards from being in someones company with that kind of record. He has four charges, rape, assault, predator, and a sexual violent crime. That is horrible! What are your thoughts? I would never be involved with him romantically again but should I remain friends with him? Is it wrong to not be his friend?