I'm 47 so I've been around the block and yet it's my experience that women are quite prepared to criticise their OH but can't take criticism themselves. Is that just my experience? Thoughts from women would be much appreciated.
I'm 47 so I've been around the block and yet it's my experience that women are quite prepared to criticise their OH but can't take criticism themselves. Is that just my experience? Thoughts from women would be much appreciated.
What's "OH"?
I think most people - male OR female - find it difficult to be criticized. I only take it well when I know it is well-meaning, and coming from someone I respect.
Relax... I'll need some information first. Just the basic facts - can you show me where it hurts?
Criticized, mm depends by whom,if my other half (OH) was to do this then i would listen, however when men tend to do it they do it often in anger and then its a case of being able to aim it back at them and rip it apart.
From another woman well yea if i respect her but i tend to find few i respect.
A mistake is always forgivable, rarely excusable and always unacceptable.
Robert Fripp
I find it difficult, but so does he. I try to state mine in a way that is kind, and from the heart and not mean spirited. He does the same. Often it takes 'my pride' a short while to recover, but I usually do in just a short while.
And in my experience, men take criticism no better than women.
If it's constructive criticism from someone who loves and respects me, I can take it just fine. If it's done in a derogatory way, that's only going to make me want to 'hit' back with criticism toward them. Learn to do it with love and caring.
If you carry old bricks from your past relationship to your new one,
you will build the same house that fell apart before.
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When was the last time you did something for the first time?
Yup women are way more sensitive. You can't be blunt, but there are other creative ways to approach a woman to avoid them being offended.
It's definately about how it's given. If done in a respectful, gentle manner with no anger, then I will take it on board. If a man gives me criticism in response to me criticising him or done in anger I'd likely be offended.
We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts, we make our world.
“When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.” – Lao Tzu
Ya and hopefully see the difference between being abusive and actually giving ctriticism.
I'm able to, as long as it isn't related to my appearance. I do always try to look my best.
Can MEN take criticism? =)
Unstable, insecure people find it hard to be criticized. The deeper the insecurity, the more sensitive they are to it. Stable, secure people have no problem with it.
Try to make your criticism non-personal, or as a suggestion. Instead of "Phew! Did you forget to take a shower?" try "Hey love muffin. I like you better after a shower, honey."
Last edited by bulrush; 14-09-11 at 11:14 PM.
I have a long time interest in psychology, specializing in relationship dynamics for 30 years.
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I have a long time interest in psychology, specializing in relationship dynamics for 30 years.
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As long as you don't EVER mention the 'F' word
You know which one. No, not that sweary one. The other one. Yep, that's it. Never mention that in front of the woman you are seeing. EVER