"It's all George's fault. All that talk about impotence. He got to me. And that orgasm stuff: orgasm this and orgasm that. It's a lot of pressure!" Jerry Seinfeld
vampiress - don't want to get into a debate on someone else's thread but wonder if you could expand a bit?
Please tell me why anyone would feel insecure enough to cheat if they are happily in love with the person they are with. I'm not some preachy person who thinks he knows it all, by the way - clearly I don't. I just suspect most people that say they are in love but still cheat don't really know what it is like to be in love with someone and put them above everything else.
I have looked at this situation from both sides personally, as well as knowing countless friends and family members who have been affected by infidelity. Not one of those scenarios played out when both people were fully invested in a loving relationship, even if it appeared they were to those looking in from the outside.
Simmo - really apologies for taking over your thread. I'll say no more, apart from good luck getting over the hurt. It does take a long time, and there will likely be a part of you that never understands. You will let it go in the future, though, and that is what you must look forward to.
Hey. I'm just going to say that I really feel for you. I have been through something similar and the pain never seems to go away. It's probably not going to help much, but I promise you that you will feel better in time. You need to keep yourself busy doing things you enjoy. I've been having a tough time lately, so I've started walking my dog for at least an hour a day somewhere peaceful. I have promised myself I will continue to do so, because it really, really helps and I feel so much better afterwards. As much as you want to, sleeping all day will make you feel worse. You need to get out there, even if you don't feel like it. Remind yourself that you do not need a girl like that, someone willing to lie and cheat, in your life, and pity the next person she inflicts herself upon and smile that you got away from such a person. You deserve better, and by doing this to yourself, you are letting her 'win' in some respects. It's hard, but smile that you are the better person and it is no fault of yours that caused it. She had the problem, not you. You had the strength and courage to get rid of her, so feed off that same courage and believe that you can get through this. If you ever want someone to vent to, please feel free to message me anytime! Best of luck.
I am going out there and socializing, but I've noticed that I'm just not good at socializing anymore. My world has been turned upside down. I'm considering posting a topic about it in personal development. As for keeping busy I'm a student so I'm pretty busy. I don't have urges to sleep all day anymore unless it's because of school work.
I really do appreciate all the support. I really do.
"The loudest one in the room is the weakest one in the room."
"Teaching should be such that what is offered is perceived as a valuable gift and not as a hard duty."
Well, I did stay in bed for almost a week.. Until everyone I know got involved in the situation ... Being around people is your best chance to get over it! But be careful not to hurt yourself over the matter .. I have insomnia now and don't get proper sleep...and a family with urges to kill the ex-fiancé to add to it...
You'd think I'm only lucky to have family and friends ... But I'll tell you. It's no good making them all worried about your mental health !?
"It's all George's fault. All that talk about impotence. He got to me. And that orgasm stuff: orgasm this and orgasm that. It's a lot of pressure!" Jerry Seinfeld
sooo interesting experience today. She called me up. I was kind of taken back but decided "ok, what the hell I'll answer." So I did, and what a trip. We were talking about issues in our past relationship and I was wondering why the hell we were talking about any of this. And out of no where she starts accusing me of harassing her. In the middle of her yapping about it I just hung up on her. 1) I have no idea where she got that from because I've done NC for about a month. 2) She contacted me. 3) She has no right to accuse me of anything after everything she has put me through. I'm still unsure as to what her actual intentions were. Maybe she got upset that I was actually over her crap and not taking it anymore? Anyway after the random explosion and me hanging up I felt more free and a feeling of "I'm so glad I don't have to put up with that anymore" came over me. It was great. She only reenforced my barrier against her.
conclusion: I'm pretty sure she has borderline personality disorder, and I'm blocking her number tomorrow. YAY ME.
"The loudest one in the room is the weakest one in the room."
"Teaching should be such that what is offered is perceived as a valuable gift and not as a hard duty."
Congratulations! you've got your closure?! ...
"It's all George's fault. All that talk about impotence. He got to me. And that orgasm stuff: orgasm this and orgasm that. It's a lot of pressure!" Jerry Seinfeld
"The loudest one in the room is the weakest one in the room."
"Teaching should be such that what is offered is perceived as a valuable gift and not as a hard duty."
"It's all George's fault. All that talk about impotence. He got to me. And that orgasm stuff: orgasm this and orgasm that. It's a lot of pressure!" Jerry Seinfeld