Need Advice

[Robert45365]

I am going through a rough breakup. She had put a protection order on me to get me out of her house. I left and we had court. We can to a agreement to do a 60 day no contact. Well a few weeks ago that got broken and she dropped it. Well talked eveeryday after she dropped it and I was begging and pleading with her to get back with me and she told me she woulld think about things. Well she told me that I had to go to her church by myself for a few weeks and she would give me an anwser if we would get back together. Well she got back with me the Friday before I went to her church. I went to her chrch as I said I was going to do as I promised her. We got along really good for the last week and thingss went good. We even stayed the night together one night and had a amazing time. 2 nights ago she got mad at me cause cause I sent her a text and it said well I wont bug you if you are busy so she took that the wrong way and got mad at me and then she texted me and said she didnt know what do to. I met up with her yesterday and she told me it was over for good and it hurt so so so bad. I tried to call her today and she anwsered once and said it was over for good. I asked her to think about things and she said there was no thinking to do. Also yesterday she told me she wasnt in love with me anymore and I dont understand how she could say that to me cause on the night we hung out she told me it felt so right and that she was happy to be back with me. I am hurting so so bad and cant focus on my life. I really wanna work out things with her. What should I do to get her to think about things. I have told her I was sorry and tried to talk to her and that didnt work at all.

[MerryH]

She's done with you. She said that very clearly, several times. Respect that. Leave her alone before she calls the cops on you for violating your protection order.

We can to a agreement to do a 60 day no contact.

lol no. That wasn't an agreement you two just amicably came to. The court imposed 60 days of no contact. They don't do that for no reason. Leave her alone.

[Andariel]

MerryH is right. When someone tells you they are no longer in love with you, they mean it. They do not mean 'try harder' , they mean 'leave me alone'.

Just imagine how pushy and creepy you got that she had to take out a court order to keep you away! This is not normal behaviour on your part. Can you imagine the stress and fear you have caused her?

Just because you spend a night together it does not change anything. She was probably feeling sorry for you after you had spent so much time pleading and begging taht she thought 'OK, I will give him a last chance and see if I want to get back together'. She did that, said some things that she didn't truly mean but just got caught up in the moment and the next day when she had time to clear her head she came back to her previous decision: that she no longer loves you and does not want you in her life.

There is no point in contacting her again.In fact, you need to learn to respect boundaries before getting into a relationship with anyone: when someone says they don't want to see you or talk to you or be with you then respect that instead of humiliating yourself by becoming a creepy stalker. I am not trying to offend you but think about this for a second: if someone is so pushy as to force someone to to take out a court order to keep them away, then they have obviously have had more than enough from you and want you to leave them alone. Learn how to respect yourself and others before trying to pursue a relationship with anyone again.Nobody wants to be with a stalker who does not know when to let go.