Communication is very important during make out sessions because everyone likes things different. However, in general girls like a light, gentle touch.
You got an erection because it's easy for younger guys. It happens all the time because your hormones are so high. You really don't have much control over that part.
I have a long time interest in psychology, specializing in relationship dynamics for 30 years.
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