Hey all, I am the girlfriend and I just want you to hear my side. I do have a gay friend. I have known him for 15 years - almost twice as long as I have known my boyfriend (who I love and adore!) Let's get a few things straight though...First, I have offered for the three of us to get together and go out. He has already met him several times and they even workout at the same gym. In the 15 years I have known my gay friend, I have only been to his apartment twice - after shows where he has been a music director - and there has been a celebration party. The one breakfast we had was on the first day of school - we work at the same school - and another co-worker was going to join us until her child got sick. I do not call and text him all the time. However, I certainly don't find anything wrong with a "Happy Birthday," two word text, to someone on the morning of their birthday. I was at school helping to decorate for his birthday because several parents and students that are in his choral booster club wanted to do it and needed me because I have master keys! Even though we work at the same school, his classroom is on the total opposite side of the building. We don't even see each other everyday. We don't "date," and we don't even go out socially together. I think twice we ran into each other at Starbucks, but didn't even plan it.
What can I do??? I love my boyfriend, but he has a hard time believing anything I say about this friend. He has gathered probably every time my friend and I have done something together in 15 years and thinks we are together all the time. It is driving me crazy and we can't even talk about it rationally anymore. I let him check my phone, my facebook, my emails - I have nothing to hide! He keeps saying, "See it from my side," and I guess I should be flattered that he is jealous, but there is no reason to be. We have been together 9 years and I have never once cheated on him or even thought about cheating on him. I am not made that way. I have been more than forgiving of him for some indiscretions...Please help! What can I do to help him get over this?????