send a postcard to McDonald's or wait?

[theVP]

There's this girl that I really like that works at a McDonald's near my place of work. Last week, I finally got up my nerve to finally talk to her and messed up everything I planned to say terribly. So, I quickly left the McD's really embarrassed, and once I was back at my office, I realized I left my duffel bag back in a booth back there. I brought flowers along for this girl, but left them in the bag, because I was already feeling too much pressure just to talk to this girl as it was.

So, I looked up this restaurant's phone number, made a call to describe the bag, and where I left it, and asked if I they could hold on to it until I came to pick it up, and they said they could.

Other then the flowers, this bag mostly contained work related materials of mine. In any case, my paranoid mind kept imaging those nosy workers rummaging through there, laughing about the flowers, and learning all details about my life. But I didn't want to go in to see those same workers to retrieve it, so I came in early on Saturday morning instead. A sleepy guy brought it out of the back, and in my car I quickly unzipped it to check to see if it was all in tact, and I was glad everything was just as I left them.

Anyhow, all weekend, the bad experience has been playing in my mind again and again, as well as "what I would have done instead".

I'm going out of town a routine work related trip tomorrow, so just this afternoon, I was getting my stuff ready to pack up. Just an hour ago, I opened my duffel bag, to empty it, and I found a handwritten note in the flowers that said "I LIKE YOUR YOU TOO -SILVIA"

I almost had a heart attack after reading this note, and I keep looking at it. But after thinking about it, I'm thinking there's also a really good chance a co-worker may have written the note as a joke.

What stinks, is that I'm now heading for Boston for about a week (which now seems like an eternity). Before last week, I've gone to eat at this place every day for lunch, so now it's going to look like I've just retreated because of the experience on Friday.

So, should I just play it cool and wait to do something until I get back? Send a postcard from Boston? I'm afraid that might make me look too desperate and too much like a stalker.


Ugh! Really wish I wasn't heading out of town now.

[searock]

I think the postcard idea sounds great ^_^. You have nothing to lose - if she did leave you that message, she'll be overjoyed to receive it, and if it was just a prank by her co-workers, nevermind, she'll know you are thinking about her and it will definitely make her smile. It's a nice, romantic gesture and I'm sure she'll appreciate it, regardless of the fact that she may or may not like you. Be sure to not come off as desperate or creepy with what you write on it though, although I'm pretty sure you know how to handle it. You sound like a sweet guy, and by what you wrote in your previous thread about her reaction to your "confession", I'm pretty positive she likes you . Good luck!

[James Banes]

Are you sure you're a successful businessman or the guy who stocks Coke in the pop machine?

[bulrush]

We already went through this. She doesn't know English. At all, from the the sound of things. IF she knows basic English try it. Or you can learn Spanish. But consider this. If she doesn't know English, that means she didn't grow up in the US, and she might be illegal. How would that look for your company? You dating an illegal alien?

After considering that, send her a postcard, tell you are on a trip and cannot see her right now.

[MerryH]

But consider this. If she doesn't know English, that means she didn't grow up in the US, and she might be illegal. How would that look for your company? You dating an illegal alien?

Wow. There are millions of people in the US who don't speak English, but are here perfectly legally. Why would his company care about that, anyway? Is he in politics?

OP, don't send a postcard. That is just way too much for someone you've barely spoken with. If you are hell-bent on pursuing her, then wait until you get back from traveling. Go back in there for lunch, and give her a little wave or something. If it seems like she wants to talk to you, hand her a note on your way out with your number on it. That's all you can do without embarrassing her in front of her coworkers.

But why are you so infatuated with someone you do not know at all, who doesn't even speak English? I mean, you're desperate to talk to her (unattractive, btw.) I don't get it. How do you think a relationship or even a friendship is possible? It's not even just that there's a language barrier. She doesn't work in a position where it's feasible to speak to her casually. It seems so impossible. Why is this so important to you?

[James Banes]

I'm thinking he's either lying when he says he's a successful businessman or he's exaggerating. I don't understand his desire for her either. Maybe he owns a hot dog stand that finally broke the breaking even margin and now he considers himself a successful businessman.

[Mathias]

There's this girl that I really like that works at a McDonald's near my place of work. Last week, I finally got up my nerve to finally talk to her and messed up everything I planned to say terribly. So, I quickly left the McD's really embarrassed, and once I was back at my office, I realized I left my duffel bag back in a booth back there. I brought flowers along for this girl, but left them in the bag, because I was already feeling too much pressure just to talk to this girl as it was.

So, I looked up this restaurant's phone number, made a call to describe the bag, and where I left it, and asked if I they could hold on to it until I came to pick it up, and they said they could.

Other then the flowers, this bag mostly contained work related materials of mine. In any case, my paranoid mind kept imaging those nosy workers rummaging through there, laughing about the flowers, and learning all details about my life. But I didn't want to go in to see those same workers to retrieve it, so I came in early on Saturday morning instead. A sleepy guy brought it out of the back, and in my car I quickly unzipped it to check to see if it was all in tact, and I was glad everything was just as I left them.

Anyhow, all weekend, the bad experience has been playing in my mind again and again, as well as "what I would have done instead".

I'm going out of town a routine work related trip tomorrow, so just this afternoon, I was getting my stuff ready to pack up. Just an hour ago, I opened my duffel bag, to empty it, and I found a handwritten note in the flowers that said "I LIKE YOUR YOU TOO -SILVIA"

I almost had a heart attack after reading this note, and I keep looking at it. But after thinking about it, I'm thinking there's also a really good chance a co-worker may have written the note as a joke.

What stinks, is that I'm now heading for Boston for about a week (which now seems like an eternity). Before last week, I've gone to eat at this place every day for lunch, so now it's going to look like I've just retreated because of the experience on Friday.

So, should I just play it cool and wait to do something until I get back? Send a postcard from Boston? I'm afraid that might make me look too desperate and too much like a stalker.


Ugh! Really wish I wasn't heading out of town now.

Wait, you told your coworkers about this?

[James Banes]

No, he is saying it might have been her coworker who wrote the card.

[vashti]

She won't get a postcard before you return. The USPS takes forever to deliver those things. YOu are just going to have to wait to see her until you get back.

[James Banes]

And could you keep your response to this thread. This is already your third thread about this Mickie dEES chick. If you had kept it in one thread it would be easier to follow your story. And how come you never respond to these threads? You never give comments or thanks? You just keep posting new threads.

[bulrush]

Wow. There are millions of people in the US who don't speak English, but are here perfectly legally. Why would his company care about that, anyway? Is he in politics?

Yes, and there are many millions more illegals that do NOT speak English. I'm just working the statistics here. It is more likely she is illegal.

If he works for a sizable company, say 5000+ employees, his APPEARANCE is very important. His actions must be beyond reproach, because as an executive, he represents the company. Which makes me think he works for a small company, maybe 2-10 people. He might be in sales, but also be the general Vice President, thus he travels sometimes.