I went out with my girlfriend a few Friday nights ago - it was my birthday the week before and she couldn't be there, so she wanted to come in to the City and shout me dinner and some drinks.
She is single. I am not.
When I got home my boyfriend blew up at me and also started attacking her, telling me he didn't like her (they've never met, mind you) and if she had a boyfriend I wouldn't "have" to be hanging with her all the time - I am not sure where he gets this all the time stuff. We hadn't met for drinks in about a year!
He is the kind of man who believes that women go out for one reason and one reason only - to pick up men. Heaven forbid we might actually want to just meet our friends for a drink. No, in his mind women do everything for men.
Lately as the weather are starting to warm up, I have been getting invitations from friends to go for drinks, housewarmings, lunches and just general catch-ups. My friends are very important to me, but I feel like a nervous wreck at the thought of telling my bf I want to see them. Even when I was out with my friend the other night, I couldn’t stop checking my watch.
I don’t really understand it… he never used to be this way. I could go out all night with my friends and stumble in at 5am. He would help nurse my hangover the next day!
I have always been totally honest in my relationships, but lately I have begun keeping things from him, like when I go to lunch with friends during work hours, or if a girlfriend and I have planned a night out, I won’t tell him until the day and pretend she spontaneously suggested it. I shouldn’t have to do that stuff but I feel like I have to.
He used to be a bigger party animal than me, but now he doesn’t even want to go out for a few hours.
I am 29 and he is 46. I don’t know if the age difference has anything to do with it but I don’t like feeling like I have to stay home every Friday and Saturday night.
I feel like he doesn't trust me. Like just because my friends are single and I’m not, I’m going to still do something bad. I am not sure what to do. I have tried speaking with him but he just somehow makes it my fault.