Is she leading me on?

[Down&Out]

I was with a girl 3.5 years. She was ready to get married but I had cold feet. We are both 26 and she broke up with me a few months after I moved out of state. We both had great job opportunities come up and given the economy felt we had to take them and would figure things out. After 5 months it became too hard on her emotionally and she ended it. Then after a couple months I tried to make things work but then found out she went on a date and handled it the wrong way. However, we did decide to make things work and I landed a job where she was. The catch was that I wouldn't be back for a couple months. Although we werent' back together, we agreed that neither of us would see anyone. Then after moving for a few weeks and seeing eachother all the time "possibly too often right away" she met the guy she had gone on the prior date with up for drinks and ended it with me the next day. Said feelings weren't the same. She ended up going on dates with other guys as well after this. We kinda of kept in touch after this but mostly superficial texts. Then after a couple months we meet up. i suggest coffee but then she wants to do dinner due to timing. We meet for dinner. She starts talking about how the break was good for us and that it felt less forced now. She also wanted to see eachother more oftern. After dinner she wanted to grab coffee as well to chat more. Afterwords she texts saying how great it was to see me. A week later she goes out of her way to meet me for dinner and it goes well. Lots of laughs and her complementing me etc. After that communication was initiated on my end but she was texting like when we were together, with lots of smiles and bringing up fond memories of us together. I went out of town this last week and she knew about it but never contacted me. The day I got back she texts "Hope your doing well and happy monday" I called her the next night and left a voice mail saying I wanted to say hi. That was last night and no response. Its hard being on the edge like this. Maybe I'm over analyzing? When we had dinnver I asked where she stood and she said being single has been good for both of us and she wanted us to spend time together but focus on ourselves for now. I agreed I wanted the same. After she kept asking if I was ok with that. How should I proceed? I want to get back together but feel we need to go very slow. I'm uncomfortable with the idea that she may be just keeping me as a backup. What should I do? Throughout our relationship she often felt she loved me more than I did her so its hard to imagine that I would be the plan B. Any advice would be greatly appreciated......

[IndiReloaded]

She sounds like she's trying to convince herself about something. Not sure what tho. Don't blame you for being confused, I would be too.

I think you'll just have to ask her what's up if she doesn't make it clear soon. Sorry I couldn't be of more help.