Hi everyone, I would greatly appreciate your advice on my issue.
I've been with a girl for about 2 years now, prior to that we knew each other for many years as friends. Our relationship is one where we've been forced apart thanks to distance. We try our best to see each other but in the past 2 years since we've gone out, we've only been able to see each other twice for a period of 3-4 weeks each time. So basically a month a year is all we get. During the times we are together, it really is a great feeling because physical connection is so underrated when its not present. It actually makes you treasure the person much more when shes there in those brief moments.
Anyway, our relationship started well. Explosive, chemistry, fireworks in the tummy. You name it, we felt it. It was romance romance romance. When we first started going out, her life had quite a few problems. Family problems being a major one. Then it moved to financial problems. I love her and throughout all those problems of hers, I stuck it out with her. Always being there to help her where I can. That was 2 years back, since then, her life has gotten back on track. Shes now moved out away from problematic family issues, with a stable job that she hopes to succeed in. Before sounding like some white knight here, I would also like to say that even though I don't have the sorta problems she has, she has always been there for me. Emotionally supporting me through tough moments. She tries her best to make time for us by always rushing home from work.
Over time, like any relationship, we get our arguments. But we've found that along with the arguments, we're also slowly losing feelings for each other. We're getting into a routine where we take each other's presence for granted. Where shes started to feel like the mere fact shes in a relationship with me restricts her freedom since she feels forced to accommodate me in her life even though I'm not there next to her. I can't say I feel the same way but I have found moments where even time spent with her, I didn't feel anything more than just friendship going on as we talked about our days. Basically..we can't go out to dinner like a normal couple, we can't go to the movies, we don't even have cyber sex, let alone holding hands or kissing..the intimate physical connections in our relationship isn't there as well as the activities most couples take for granted to entertain themselves.
Its been very hard I admit. But I do feel she is a very special woman. I would like to marry her eventually once we can be together because I do feel that there is a bright future with her if only she could be next to me. But as the days go by, shes losing feelings for me at a faster rate than I am for her. The distance is taking its toll on us. Her mind has been a mess lately as she tries to figure out what she really wants. From stability, shes now gone back to confusion over what she really wants in life. She does want to settle down and live happily but the fact that we are about a year or two away from being together makes it a very long wait and with the distance added, its been a whole lot of uncertainties over what she now feels she wants. As for me, I'm still certain that I want to be with her..Problem is that each day shes uncertain makes me uncertain as well. I'll be flying to visit her again in February a coupla months from now and I'm hoping to rekindle the romance then..
But what should I do in the mean time? Would it even be worth trying to rekindle the romance? Can this still work against all odds? I'd love to hear advice from anyone, especially those who have been in relationships where the romance sorta faded out..and how to rekindle it..as well as those who have been in long distance relationships.
Please help because I do want to save this relationship. But I'm running out of ideas on how.